Forward Note

From the episode:"One of the things that I've been just thinking about is our attachment to things that may not really serve us, but we think we need them." - Brandy Little"We attach ourselves to what's familiar even though sometimes it's not necessarily the best thing for us. We know how to navigate this world, the familiar. We don't know how to navigate a world without it." - Brandy Little"We seek out the familiar. It's terrifying to go into the unfamiliar and to be vulnerable in that way." - Tonia McIntosh"Forward note." - Tonia McIntosh"I think a lot of it has to do with consciously making choices versus unconsciously making choices. It's a whole different ball game when you are consciously choosing something, because you have to be honest to do that, you have to really think, and you have to really look around you and be like, 'I have to say some hard things to say to myself right now. Not only do I have to say some hard things to myself right now, but I have to hear those things that I'm saying, and really know that what I should be choosing something different than what feels good.'" - Tonia McIntosh"You have to accept the option that maybe the way you were thinking about yourself, the way you're defining yourself, the way you're living, isn't the only way, and that's really hard when you've been living that way your entire life or for years. There's more ways than you can even fathom and you don't have to stay there. At some point, it becomes a choice that you stayed there and you decided to not listen to yourself because it's hard and you made that decision, which means you can easily make the decision in the other way too." - Brandy Little"Reflections are backwards." - Tonia McIntosh"Backward note." - Tonia McIntosh"I'm looking at this point and how I'm this person, and it's evident that I've changed. The question to ask is, 'How much of this change did I participate in?' If you ask yourself that question, you'll be like, 'Wow, maybe not a lot.'" - Tonia McIntosh"What kind of person do I want to be? Do I get a choice in that? What are my core beliefs about myself, about life, about people? Is this serving me in the best way? Am I diffusing my energy to the point where it's not going to the places that I really want it to land? Just question, question, question, really evaluate and let possibilities that you wouldn't normally think to be an answer to be an answer." - Brandy Little"We get stuck on autopilot and we're just going through life and we think we know who we are, but forget to listen to ourselves or hear ourselves. We need to synthesize through our hearts and our minds, because your mind will lock in on something and be like, 'This is how it is.'" - Brandy Little"It's strange to be comfortable in something that's painful." - Brandy Little"What is failure and how I define that matters? What I'm comparing it to matters, because I can make sure I fail in everything if I compare it to the perfect." - Brandy Little"I always try to extract the most I can from any moment." - Brandy Little"How am I reinforcing the things that aren't serving me?" - Brandy Little"It's hard to take responsibility." - Tonia McIntosh"Sadness is an interesting emotion, because we so get programmed into how we move through sadness and how we feel through sadness, but if we're conscious while we were moving through our sadness, we can choose to move through that in a new, beautiful way." - Tonia McIntosh"We have a quote, unquote, good emotions and negative emotions, like they're all beautiful if you allow them to be." - Tonia McIntosh"What if nothing's wrong with you? How would you move through life differently if you believed that nothing was wrong with you?" - Tonia McIntoshConnect MoreWebsite | https://www.listenhearter.com/ *coming soonFacebook | https://www.facebook.com/ListenHearter/instagram | https://www.instagram.com/listenhearter/Twitter | https://twitter.com/ListenHearter/YouTube | https://youtube.com/channel/UCtZ0znK-otguMViLFgb_BpQSupport MorePatreon | https://www.patreon.com/listenhearterSponsorsWe are searching for sponsors. Please contact us through Facebook if you are interested in sponsoring us. ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★