Flakey Gays: Why is Follow-Through So Hard?

The guy who constantly cancels plans, keeps things vague, or disappears when something better comes along — that’s flakiness: a pattern of not following through.

In a culture of endless options and shifting feelings, has unreliability quietly become normal? And what does that actually say about us?

In this off-the-cuff episode, we talk about:

• What flakiness actually is — and what it isn’t
• The difference between boundaries and excuses
• Common avoidance patterns in dating and friendships
• Why keeping your word is about more than just social plans
• What it really means to be a reliable man

This isn’t just about the inconvenience of canceled plans. It’s about self-trust, stronger relationships, and the kind of man you’re practicing becoming.

Today's Hosts:

• Matt Landsiedel
• Michael DiIorio - Take the 360° Self-Review for Gay Men

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Chapters

• (00:00:00) - Gay Men Going Deep: FlAKY Gays
• (00:03:24) - Gay Men Talk About Flakiness
• (00:07:37) - How to run a group
• (00:08:45) - Flaky Gay Men vs Avoidant Gay Men
• (00:13:03) - Being Candid With People
• (00:16:34) - Gay Men Talk About When They Don't Want To Connect With Me
• (00:20:13) - How to Get More Out of Your Friendships
• (00:21:10) - Lack of Follow Through
• (00:25:50) - Matt On His Love Life
• (00:29:04) - In the Elevator With Flakiness
• (00:30:25) - Gaming Going Deep