Fighting Right for Connection

Conflict doesn’t have to break your relationship; it can build it. In this episode of Crusin' for Clarity with a Therapist, we’re unpacking the real science behind how couples fight and what separates the ones who grow stronger from the ones who fall apart. Pulling from the Gottmans’ legendary Love Lab research, I’m breaking down key patterns, behaviors to watch out for, and tools you can use. We’re talking soft startups, emotional flooding, the infamous Four Horsemen, and how to heal after a fight. If you’ve ever wondered why a small argument feels like a big deal or how to stop turning fights into emotional distance, this one’s for you. Let’s shift from fighting to win to fighting for connection.