Feelings Aren’t Facts: How Therapy Culture Lost the Plot

Today we’re pulling back the curtain on a cultural shift that’s been quietly reshaping how we function in relationships, work, and daily life. Somewhere along the way, the language of therapy stopped being a tool for healing — and became a script for avoidance.

Suddenly everything is “toxic.” Every tough conversation is a “boundary violation.” And any feeling — no matter how fleeting — is treated as absolute truth.

But here’s the reality: Feelings are signals, not facts. And when we mistake one for the other, we lose our capacity to tolerate discomfort, repair ruptures, and stay connected when things get hard.

In this episode, I’m joined by RaQuel Hopkins — whose work on emotional resilience and discomfort tolerance is both grounded and refreshingly honest. Together, we break down how therapy-speak has gone off the rails and what it actually looks like to build psychological strength in a culture that rewards fragility.

You’ll walk away with:

• A clearer understanding of why “therapy language” exploded culturally — and why so much of it is being misused.
  

• The difference between true boundaries and avoidant behavior disguised as self-care.
  

• Practical tools for strengthening emotional resilience so you can stay regulated and present, even when things get uncomfortable.
  

If you’re tired of oversimplified wellness advice, if you want relationships that can handle real conflict, or if you’re ready for a more honest conversation about feelings, facts, and personal responsibility, this episode is for you.

Xxoo Darcy

REFERENCES/RESOURCES

www.alternativescounseling.com

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