Feel Cheated? Reclaim Your Peace When Life Feels Unfair for Alienated Parents

Are you a parent who’s ever felt robbed of precious moments with your child—by a person, the system, or just life itself? In this raw and transformative episode, Shelby Milford shares a deeply personal story of feeling cheated and the powerful shift that changed everything. Discover how letting go of resistance and embracing the present can turn pain into connection, even in the most challenging circumstances. If you’re struggling with alienation, injustice, or the ache of lost time, this episode will offer you hope, practical wisdom, and a path to reclaiming your peace.

Main Talking Points:

• Shelby’s personal journey through supervised visits and the emotional turmoil of feeling cheated as a parent.
• The impact of external interference (step-parent, ex-partner) on parent-child relationships.
• The internal struggle: how resistance to reality drains energy and deepens pain.
• The pivotal moment: learning to let go of resistance, inspired by Byron Katie’s "Loving What Is" and group coaching.
• The transformation that occurs when focusing on love and presence rather than injustice.
• Practical strategies for parents to reclaim peace and connection, even when circumstances feel unfair.

Notable Quotes:

• “Have you ever noticed that your brain will fixate on the villain in your story and then suddenly you realize that that person is running your inner world?”
• “Letting go of resistance didn’t mean pretending it was fair… it simply meant accepting the truth of this moment.”
• “When you stop fighting what already is, you reclaim your presence. You reclaim your peace.”
• “Because once your peace stops depending on fairness, you become untouchable.”
• “I was handing it away every time that I let her behavior dictate my sense of peace on the inside.”

Key Takeaways:

• Feeling cheated is a layered emotion, often rooted in resistance to reality and a longing for justice.
• Obsessing over unfairness or the actions of others can rob you of the very moments you cherish with your child.
• True healing begins not with external justice, but with releasing the need for things to be different right now.
• Letting go is not approval or weakness—it’s a conscious act of reclaiming your energy and presence.
• When you meet reality with acceptance and focus on love, you create space for genuine connection and joy, regardless of external circumstances.
• Your peace and ability to connect with your child are within your control, even when the situation feels out of your hands.

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00:00 Introduction and Welcome

00:30 Announcements and Updates

01:59 Feeling Cheated: An Alienated Mom's Story

09:35 The Turning Point: Embracing Acceptance

16:35 Understanding Resistance and Letting Go

22:48 Practical Steps to Reclaim Peace

23:40 Conclusion and Farewell