Family Help vs Paid Help: The Trade-Offs No One Talks About

In this conversation we explore what it really takes to build the right support system at home: from the lens of Annabel and Dale (two moms who do it differently). One of us relies on nearby family (and paid help), the other on paid caregivers, and together we unpack the trade-offs of both. We talk about the hidden logistics of managing help, how to build trust with nannies and sitters, and the unspoken truths that surface—control, guilt, shame, even quiet resentment.

This is an honest look at how family help can blur boundaries, how paid help can create structure and freedom, and how both require letting go of perfection and redefining what “help” means. Whether you’re hiring, leaning on relatives, or mixing the two, this episode will leave you with practical takeaways and the reassurance that there’s no one right way to feel supported.

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