Episode Overview

In Episode 8, Chris and Candi return with a refreshed setup and introduce an exciting new chapter for the podcast, welcoming their new producer, Maranda Taylor.

The conversation quickly moves into one of the most difficult and misunderstood aspects of estrangement: the belief that parents should carry their pain quietly, take full blame, and remain silent. Chris and Candi speak openly about what it feels like to be challenged publicly, judged without context, and told that parental grief is invalid.

This episode explores the damaging cultural narrative that estranged parents are automatically at fault and therefore do not deserve empathy, voice, or grief. Together, they challenge the idea that accountability and pain cannot coexist and affirm that multiple truths can exist at the same time.

🕒 Episode Breakdown & Key Moments

(0:00–1:30)

• Welcome to Episode 8
• New setup and improved production
• Introduction of the podcast’s new producer
• Lighthearted banter about the show’s name

(1:30–3:30)

• Explanation of the weekly “Comment of the Week”
• Why these comments matter
• The importance of parents having a voice

(3:30–9:00)

• Candi shares a public comment that crossed the line
• Assumptions about accountability and parenting
• Addressing the myth that estranged parents refuse reflection
• Clarifying that one estranged relationship does not define all relationships

(9:00–12:00)

• Accountability, therapy, and introspection
• Emotional impact of being publicly labeled and dismissed

(12:00–16:00)

• Core topic: what society thinks parents should do with their pain
• Why the narrative demands silence
• How multiple truths can exist at once

(16:00–19:30)

• Society’s discomfort with complexity
• Pressure on parents to “just move on”
• Why estrangement grief is different

(19:30–21:30)

• Mental and emotional toll of estrangement
• Identity loss as a parent
• Why silence can be dangerous

(21:30–24:30)

• Why parental pain is minimized
• Guilt, shame, and the villain narrative

(24:30–28:30)

• Therapy expectations and responsibility dynamics
• Adult-to-adult communication
• Accountability as a shared responsibility

(28:30–End)

• Final reflections on boundaries and humanity
• Affirmation that parents are allowed to feel pain
• Closing thoughts on voice and healing

💬 Key Themes

• Parental grief and ambiguous loss
• Accountability versus automatic blame
• Society’s discomfort with parental pain
• Identity loss after estrangement
• Healing without silence
• The right to speak your truth

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🎧 Listener Takeaway

You can take accountability and still grieve.
You can reflect and still feel pain.
Silence is not healing, and grief does not require permission.

Chris and Candi are back for Episode 7, and they are digging into one of the biggest recurring themes they hear from estranged parents: therapy language being used as a weapon instead of a tool. Starting with a real TikTok message about therapists letting clients “define” abuse, toxicity, and narcissism, they unpack why that approach can leave adult children confused, entrenched in labels, and less likely to move toward real healing or reconciliation.

They talk about the rise of therapy buzzwords, the difference between validating feelings and treating feelings as facts, and why good therapy should challenge thoughts, add context, and help someone move forward with clear goals. They also discuss how public platforms and high-profile conversations can shape the narrative, why bias matters in any helping profession, and what ethical, effective therapy should actually look like for families on both sides of estrangement. As always, they remind listeners they are not anti-therapy, they are pro-accountability, pro-clarity, and pro-healthy healing for everyone involved.

Chris and Candi are back with a raw, funny, and brutally honest conversation about the phrases estranged parents get judged for even thinking, let alone saying. Inspired by a viral post and the reactions it sparked, they dig into six “forbidden” truths, from “I didn’t deserve to be cut off like this” to “working on myself didn’t fix it,” and why mixed emotions like anger and grief can exist at the same time. Along the way, they talk about silence, boundaries on both sides, the myth that estrangement automatically brings peace, and why society would rather avoid discomfort than make room for the parent perspective. They also share resources for support, including their Facebook community “When They Walk Away,” and tease the next episode on therapy and why it can help or harm the path forward.

Chris and Candi talk to the parents who are in the first days and months of estrangement and feel like the floor just disappeared. They unpack the shock, the grief that feels like loss but is harder to explain, and the spiral so many parents fall into trying to get answers, cling to crumbs, or “fix it” through constant contact. With honesty, humor, and a whole lot of real talk, they discuss what helps, what hurts, and why rebuilding your identity matters whether reconciliation happens or not. They also share how their support community works, why no one should go through this alone, and how to find a place to land when you are in the thick of it.

Some losses do not come with funerals. They come with silence, blocked numbers, and birthdays you only hear about afterward. In this episode, Candy and Chris talk about the particular heartbreak of being a grandparent in an estranged family system, where access to the kids becomes leverage and love gets treated like something that can be revoked. They name the ache that sits in the body when you are left wondering how they are doing, what they have been told, and whether they will remember you the way you remember them.

With honesty, dark humor, and a whole lot of lived experience, they explore the emotional whiplash of seeing your grandchild in passing, the impossible pressure of wanting to protect the child from adult conflict while also refusing to disappear quietly, and the anger that rises when boundaries are used as a shield for cruelty. This is not a conversation about winning or being right. It is about the reality that there are no winners here, especially when the smallest people in the story do not get a vote.

If you have ever felt the grief of being erased from a child’s life you deeply love, this episode will feel like someone finally said the quiet part out loud.

In the first episode of Estranged and Deranged, Chris and Candi finally hit record and share the story behind the show. Connected by family and by deep loss, they talk about how grief and parental estrangement intersect, why so many parents feel silenced, and what they are building through their growing online community and weekly support group. This podcast is not about bashing adult children. It is about giving parents a voice, making space for the layers, and helping people move forward with identity, joy, and support.

In this episode of Estranged and Deranged, the conversation tackles how labels like toxic, narcissistic, and abusive are being flattened into slogans and shortcuts. Using a viral “toxic parent bingo card” as the lens, the hosts examine perception versus reality, sarcasm as a coping tool, and how validation culture can replace real dialogue. The episode creates space for estranged parents to question narratives, laugh where appropriate, and feel less alone while navigating a deeply personal and often misunderstood experience.

Episode two breaks down the common reasons adult children become estranged and the different ways estrangement can show up inside a family. Candy and Chris talk through the layers that often get ignored, including unresolved childhood pain, adult conflict that hits a breaking point, the influence of therapy culture and social media, peer validation, and mental health factors. They also explain the most common “types” of estrangement, from one-parent cutoffs to whole-family splits, silent ghosting, and on again off again cycles. Along the way, they address the hate comments, the misconceptions, and why their focus stays on support, honesty, and helping estranged parents move forward with their lives.