Episode 9: The First 60 Seconds After We Lose It With Our Children

Summary In this episode of the Mixed Needs Mama podcast, Terrie Hellard-Brown discusses practical strategies for parents in mixed needs families to manage their emotions and reconnect with their children after losing their temper. She emphasizes the importance of emotional regulation, authentic communication, and the value of relationships in parenting. The conversation outlines five key steps to take after a meltdown, focusing on stopping, resetting, naming the issue, reconnecting, and then redirecting behavior. Terrie encourages parents to model these behaviors to teach their children valuable life skills. takeaways

• We often blow it as parents, and that's okay.
• The first step after losing it is to stop immediately.
• Resetting our body is crucial for emotional regulation.
• Kids learn by watching our actions, not just our words.
• Authenticity in our apologies is vital for respect.
• Reconnecting with our children is more important than redirecting behavior.
• Modeling reconciliation teaches children valuable life skills.
• The relationship is key in parenting and should be prioritized.
• We can return to peace and reconciliation faster with practice.
• Teaching our children to love and forgive is essential.

Sound Bites

• "I got too loud. That wasn't okay."
• "Reconnect before you redirect."
• "We want to model that for them."

Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Mixed Needs Mama 01:16 The First 60 Seconds After Losing It 09:32 Five Steps to Reconnect and Redirect 11:40 7-Day Challenge to Fewer Blowups at Home Info 13:22 Closing to Mixed Needs Mama