Episode 87: “You Were Never Meant to Earn Love”

Welcome back to Infinite Threads. I’m your host, Bob, and this is Episode 87.Today’s message might be the most important reminder I’ve ever shared.Because I believe we’ve been carrying a weight we were never meant to hold.So let me begin by saying this clearly:You were never meant to earn love.Not by being good enough.Not by being perfect.Not by being agreeable, strong, quiet, successful, helpful, impressive, or small.You don’t have to earn it.You already are it.Where the Lie BeginsSomewhere along the way, we started believing love was a transaction.That we had to prove our worth.That we had to be chosen, approved, validated, applauded.That if we were just kind enough, smart enough, spiritual enough…Then we’d finally be loved.Maybe it started in childhood.Maybe it started with heartbreak.Maybe it started the first time someone made you feel like your presence was a burden.But I’m here to tell you: that was never love.That was fear wearing love’s clothing.Real love doesn’t make you chase it.Real love doesn’t ask you to shrink.The True Nature of LoveLove isn’t a reward.It’s a birthright.It isn’t something that arrives once you “get your act together.”It’s what helps you heal.It’s not the end of the journey.It’s the starting point.Unconditional love says:“I see you, right now, as you are. And I am not turning away.”And here’s the miracle:Once we receive that kind of love—even once—we never forget it.We start to crave it again.We start to extend it to others.And eventually, we start to believe we are worthy of giving it to ourselves.You Are Not BrokenIf you’re listening to this right now and thinking,“But I’ve messed up.”“I’m not easy to love.”“I’ve hurt people.”“I don’t even like myself sometimes.”Hear this:You are still worthy.Your pain does not make you unlovable.Your mistakes do not cancel your light.Your story is not too much.Your softness is not a liability.Your truth is not a problem.There is nothing you have to fix before you are allowed to receive love.You were made for it.You were made of it.Let This Be the Day You Stop RunningStop trying to earn love.Stop trying to barter for worth.Stop believing you have to carry the whole world to deserve a single kind word.Let this be the moment where you simply receive.Close your eyes.Breathe.And say to yourself—not because you feel it, but because it’s true:“I am loved. I am already enough. I am worthy of peace.”Let yourself soften.Let yourself be held by the thread of love that’s been surrounding you all along.The World Will Try to Convince You OtherwiseThe world will say:Hustle harder.Toughen up.Prove your value.Win love like a prize.Earn belonging through effort.But you’re not a brand.You’re not a performance.You’re not a product for public approval.You are a soul.And your worth is not negotiable.What Happens When We Finally Believe ItHere’s what I know:When we stop trying to earn love…We start living from it.And everything changes.We speak more gently.We forgive more freely.We breathe deeper.We show up braver.We stop hiding.We let others see us—because we’re no longer ashamed of our becoming.And when you begin to believe that love is already yours,You stop clinging and start giving.Not to prove anything.But because it flows from you naturally.Love stops being currency.It becomes your language.Final Thought: You Deserve Love Right NowIf no one else tells you today—let me be the one who does:You are loved.Right now.Exactly as you are.Not for what you do.But for who you are.Because you are here.And that is enough.You don’t have to earn your place in this world.You are the place where love meets the world.Let this be the episode that reminds you:You are not a project.You are a miracle in motion.And the journey isn’t to find love.It’s to remember… it’s already yours.Thank you for being here.For trusting me with your heart.And for walking this road of love, connection, and compassion.If this episode spoke to you, send it to someone who needs to be reminded too.Let them know: they’re not broken. They’re just unlearning the lie.And relearning the truth:You were never meant to earn love.You were born to live in it.Until next time,Keep choosing love.Keep being love.And keep weaving the thread.Thanks for reading Infinite Threads! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bobs618464.substack.com