Episode 8: Let’s Talk About Sex (For Real): Boundaries, Kinks, & Healing After Trauma

Sex, trauma, and faith collide in this candid conversation with Stephanie Brooks, who fearlessly guides us through topics many find difficult to discuss. Breaking down the barriers to authentic sexual communication, Stephanie reveals why "Nobody can read your mind, nobody knows how to please you but you" and how this simple truth transforms intimate relationships.

The conversation dives deep into navigating sexual triggers and flashbacks from trauma. Stephanie shares insights from her experience as both a counselor and dominant in the BDSM community, emphasizing the critical importance of aftercare and creating safe spaces. Whether you're in a marriage or new relationship, her practical wisdom offers a roadmap for expressing boundaries while still embracing sexual freedom.

Most powerfully, Stephanie reframes the relationship between faith and sexuality, challenging the shame that often permeates religious communities. "Your journey of bisexuality, your journey of BDSM, your journey of being a lesbian... all of that formed your ministry," she explains, offering a liberating perspective where past experiences become pathways to authentic spiritual connection rather than sources of condemnation. Through her Women Who Loves Christ Ministries, she demonstrates how faith can embrace our complete selves—sexual histories included—creating what she calls an "unfuckwittable" spiritual maturity that transcends judgment.

Whether you're struggling with sexual communication, healing from trauma, or reconciling your faith with your desires, this episode provides compassionate guidance for breaking unhealthy patterns and embracing your whole self. Follow Stephanie's ministry on Instagram and Facebook to continue the journey toward integration, healing, and authentic connection.

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