Episode 8: Borrowed Goals

What if the goals you're working towards aren't actually yours?

In this episode, we dig into borrowed goals: the ambitions we absorb from the people around us - parents, teachers, religion, culture, social media - without ever really stopping to ask whether we actually want them. Marriage. University. The promotion. The venture-backed startup. Some of these feel so deeply ingrained it's almost impossible to know where they came from in the first place.

We get into why so many borrowed goals are unconscious (and why that's not always a bad thing), plus the idea of 'gifted goals' - the ones that people who believe in us hand over intentionally, opening doors we didn't know we could walk through.

This episode covers:

• The difference between borrowed goals and gifted goals — and why it matters
• How to spot a goal that isn't really yours (wheel-spinning, hollow wins, and that nagging feeling of tug-of-war)
• The invisibility test: if no one could ever know you'd achieved it, would you still want it?
• Why we borrow timelines as well as goals — and the pressure to hit milestones when everyone around you is hitting theirs
• How to customise a goal so it actually fits your life, not someone else's version of it

Your goals deserve to be yours. This episode will help you figure out which ones actually are.

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