Episode 5: From “I Do” to “We Do”: How Couples Survive the Parenting Years Without Losing Each Other (w/ Eli Weinstein)

If you’ve ever looked at your partner in the parenting trenches and thought, “Wait… who are you—and what happened to us?” this episode is for you. Dr. John sits down with Eli Weinstein—therapist, no-BS truth-teller, and author of From I Do to We Do (out March 2026)—to unpack why couples drift after kids… and how to rebuild the “we” without buraning the whole house down.

You’ll hear the real stuff:

• why new dads can love their kids but not always like them (and why that doesn’t make you a monster),
• how men get trapped between “be strong” and “be emotional,”
• and what happens when a partner asks for feelings… then punishes vulnerability.

John and Eli also dig into the heavy reality therapists carry—especially with suicidal clients—and the skill of caring deeply without being crushed by it.

The practical gold is Eli’s “holy trinity” for relationship peace: expectations, perceptions, and reality—plus a simple daily check-in that prevents 90% of avoidable fights (Listen to discover this cheat code!). Add in “assume positive intent,” “treasure hunt” for what your partner does right, and a mindset shift toward rewarding effort over outcome—and you’ve got a blueprint for staying connected when life is chaos.

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