Episode 242 - Why Women Say They Want Vulnerable Men, But Don’t Always Choose Them

In this episode of You’re Probably Right, host MCM breaks down one of the most confusing parts of modern dating: why men are told to open up, but often penalized when they do. We explore the science of first impressions, the psychology of attraction, men’s mental health stigma, and why timing and framing make vulnerability either magnetic or off-putting.

Through storytelling, research, and real-world examples, you’ll learn:

• Why women’s desire in men balances confidence with emotional intimacy

• How psychology explains dating double standards

• The three dials of male vulnerability: timing, framing, and dose

• Guidance for both men and women on building trust without killing attraction

🎧 Listen in for insight, perspective, and practical advice you won’t find on dating apps.

Keywords: dating psychology, emotional intimacy, men’s mental health, women’s desire, relationships, vulnerability, attraction, modern dating

Here are the sources referenced in your episode, formatted cleanly for the notes:

• Tracy, J. L., & Beall, A. T. (2011). The Sexual Dimorphism in Pride: Men’s Pride Displays Increase Sexual Attractiveness. PubMed: link

• Research on online dating self-disclosure and desirability. ResearchGate: link

• Chatmon, B. N. (2020). The Crisis of Male Mental Health. PMC: link

• McKenzie, S. K., et al. (2022). Masculinity, Mental Health, and Stigma. PMC: link

• Pluralistic Ignorance in Men’s Help-Seeking. SpringerLink: link

• Dating App Survey on Vulnerability. TIME Magazine: link

• Sprecher, S., & Hendrick, S. (2004). Self-Disclosure and Relationship Satisfaction. Tutor2U: link

• Logan Ury case study on dating and vulnerability. TIME Magazine: link

• Relationship check-ins and intimacy building. SELF Magazine: link