Episode 22: The Hidden Lies Your Teen Believes: How Self-Deception Fuels Porn Addiction (and the Exact Steps to Break It)

In this powerful episode of the Parent Guide Podcast, host and psychotherapist Matt Bulkley exposes the #1 hidden obstacle keeping teens trapped in pornography use: self-deception. Discover how your teen’s brain creates a “reality filter” — just like an Instagram filter — that twists truth, minimizes harm, and convinces them “it’s not that bad” or “I can stop anytime.” Matt breaks down exactly how innocent curiosity turns into a one-time click into a compulsive cycle, backed by the latest 2020–2024 research. You’ll get: Real-life teen examples that make self-deception crystal clear (the “glow-up mirage,” “one more episode” trap, procrastination lies, and more)

The complete list of 15 cognitive distortions that act as fuel for the addiction (with teen-specific porn examples for each)

5 proven, evidence-based strategies (plus bonus tips) to help your teen pause, challenge the lies, and rewire their thinking

Practical ways parents can start open, shame-free conversations today

If you’ve ever heard “It’s not a big deal,” “Everyone does it,” or “I’m fine,” this episode will give you the tools to gently peel back the filter and guide your teen toward lasting freedom. Perfect for parents who feel stuck, confused, or powerless — walk away with hope and an actionable game plan.

Don’t miss the free and paid resources mentioned:

Recovery Toolbox for Teens at www.therapyassociates.net

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