Episode 156 | Why We Stay in Toxic Relationships | Stephen Paul Edwards | Part 1

In Part 1 of this conversation, Bella and Lee sit down with Stephen Paul Edwards, author of Venus Flytrap: Madness and Mayhem, to explore the deeply personal experiences that shaped his life and relationships.

Stephen opens up about childhood trauma, mental health struggles, shame, self-worth, and the toxic relationship patterns that can keep people stuck far longer than they know they should stay. He shares how unresolved pain followed him into adulthood, how emotional chaos can become familiar, and why even self-aware people can still lose themselves in unhealthy dynamics.

This is an honest, raw, and at times surprisingly funny conversation about the parts of ourselves we often try to hide.

In this episode, we talk about:

• How childhood wounds can shape adult relationships
• Why toxic relationships can feel so hard to leave
• The connection between shame, self-worth, and attachment
• What it means to lose yourself in someone else
• Why red flags often make sense only in hindsight
• The difference between being a victim and being a volunteer in your own patterns

If you have ever questioned why people stay, why they go back, or why love can sometimes feel more like chaos than connection, this episode will resonate deeply.

Because awareness does not always come before the lesson.

Sometimes it comes through it.