Episode 13, Season II: “Love on Autopilot: The Hidden Dangers of Using AI in Your Relationships”

Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of The Love Doc Relationship Coaching Services with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting, LLC. Welcome to "The Love Doc Podcast" Season II, where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind’s complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice.In this episode of The Love Doc Podcast, Dr. Sarah Hensley dives into one of the most timely and overlooked threats to modern love: the use of artificial intelligence in romantic relationships. While AI has incredible benefits in education, work, and even self-development, when it crosses into the territory of our most intimate connections, the risks are profound. Dr. Hensley unpacks the psychological cost of outsourcing our communication, validation, and even emotional expression to machines, revealing how this can quietly erode both our sense of self and the trust between partners.Through the lens of attachment science, Dr. Hensley explores how AI dependency interacts with each attachment style in unique but equally damaging ways. For the anxious-preoccupied, AI can become a dangerous validation trap, another addictive tool to soothe insecurity temporarily, but one that deepens dependency rather than fostering true relational safety. For the fearful-avoidant, AI may fuel cycles of hyperfixation and overthinking, intensifying inner conflict and emotional spiraling when they lean into their anxious side. And for the dismissive-avoidant, AI can become a shield that distances them further, providing ready-made responses that bypass vulnerability, intimacy, and the emotional presence their partners need.Dr. Hensley also sheds light on the broader psychological consequences of allowing machines to mediate human love. When we turn to AI for reassurance, scripted intimacy, or conflict resolution, we bypass the messy, imperfect, yet profoundly human work of building trust and resilience with another person. Over time, this reliance can stunt emotional growth, dilute authenticity, and undermine the very skills necessary for a healthy, secure partnership.Ultimately, Dr. Hensley reminds listeners that human connection is our deepest need and most vital resource. AI can be a useful tool in many aspects of life, but when it comes to love, discernment and moderation are essential. True intimacy requires presence, honesty, and vulnerability, things no algorithm can replicate. This episode is both a cautionary tale and a call to return to the raw, real, irreplaceable art of human connection.Tune in to "The Love Doc Podcast" every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert guidance, and a deeper understanding of life, love and relationships in the modern world. To see all of Dr. Hensley’s services please visit the links below and follow her on social media. PROMO CODE FOR OUR LISTENERS: Use LOVEDOC27 to receive 27% off any of Dr. Hensley's courses or her Hybrid Group Coaching Program. Cozy Earth promo code: LOVEDOC for 40% off at Luxury Bedding and Loungewear | Cozy EarthBedJet promo link for our listeners: bedjet.com/lovedocArmra promo code: LOVEDOC for 15% off at https://armra.com/LOVEDOCPatreons link: patreon.com/TheLoveDocPodcastDr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/group-coachingBook one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: Virtual CoachingPurchase Dr. Hensley’s online courses: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/coursesTik-Tok: @drsarahhensleyInstagram: @dr.sarahhensley_lovedocFacebook: Dr. Sarah HensleyYoutube: @Dr.SarahHensleyDisclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.We do not offer legal advice or psychological diagnosis. Listeners are encouraged to consult with professionals regarding their specific circumstances.By listening to this podcast, you agree that the hosts are not liable for any losses, damages, or misunderstandings arising from its content.Become a ...