Episode 12: Fast-Tracking Closeness: How to Reconnect with Your Physician Spouse in Minutes

In the chaos of medical life—whether it’s long shifts, away rotations, or simply the nonstop pace—connection with your partner can slip to the bottom of the priority list. But it doesn’t have to stay there. In this special solo minisode, Katie shares practical, research-backed strategies for quickly and meaningfully reconnecting with your partner—without adding pressure, guilt, or resentment.

Drawing on insights from Dr. Wayne Sotile, Dr. Tait Shanafelt, and The Gottman Institute, you’ll learn why micro-moments of connection matter, the science behind what works, and easy-to-implement scripts you can start using today.

You’ll also hear how four powerful mindsets—Meaning, Wonderment, Incorporation, and Realistic Optimism—can shift your perspective and strengthen your bond, even during high-stress seasons.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• Why “small tidbits” of connection can be more powerful than grand gestures

• Dr. Wayne Sotile’s findings on physician families and resilience

• Dr. Tait Shanafelt’s research on burnout and its ripple effects at home

• The Gottman Institute’s key predictors for lasting relationships

• Definitions and practical applications of Meaning, Wonderment, Incorporation, and Realistic Optimism

• How to apply simple scripts to re-engage with your partner in under 5 minutes

• Why prioritizing these micro-moments is not selfish—it’s essential

Resources & References:

• Dr. Wayne Sotile – The Sotile Center for Resilience

• Dr. Tait Shanafelt – Mayo Clinic & Stanford Research on Physician Well-being

• The Gottman Institute

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