Episode 11 - What to Say Instead of "Hurry Up" (When You're Already Late)

If saying “hurry up” worked, most mornings would be easier. But for many families, time pressure does the opposite. Kids freeze, melt down, or move even slower, and parents feel more stressed, not less.

In this episode of Raise Strong, we explore why “hurry up” so often backfires and what actually helps children move forward during rushed moments and transitions.

You’ll learn how time pressure affects a child’s nervous system, why urgency can trigger shutdown or resistance, and how small shifts in language can create cooperation without panic.

This episode is for any parent who wants smoother mornings, calmer transitions, and fewer power struggles when time is tight.

In this episode, we cover:

1. Why “hurry up” activates stress instead of motivation
2. How time pressure impacts a child’s developing brain
3. The difference between urgency and supportive structure
4. What to say instead of “hurry up” to help kids stay regulated
5. How language can calm the nervous system and support cooperation
6. Common traps that escalate rushed moments
7. A simple weekly practice to reduce stress during transitions

Practical Takeaway:

Kids move faster when they feel supported, not pressured. Regulation comes before cooperation, especially during time-sensitive moments.

Bonus Resource:

A printable cheat sheet with supportive phrases to replace “hurry up” is available in the show notes.

• Stop Saying “Hurry Up.”Say This Instead. - https://alexandersonkahl.com/hurry-up/
• Calm Down Corner Essentials - https://bit.ly/48WbUUh
• 7 Simple Phrases to Help Your Child Calm Down Without Power Struggles - Download your FREE guide now! - AlexAndersonKahl.com/7-simple-phrases
• Visit Our Website - AlexAndersonKahl.com
• The Meltdown Map: 5 Steps to Handle your Child's Big Emotions - AlexAndersonKahl.com/meltdown-map

Next Episode:

Episode 12: The Guilt Trap: How to Give Yourself Grace After a Hard Parenting Moment