Episode 11: Men Aren’t Allowed to Hurt: Choosing Peace, Therapy, and Truth After Divorce

Men cry. Men break. Men heal. In this powerful roundtable, Brian D. Nordstrom Jr., Apostle Andre Dodson, and Will Van Dyke sit with host Barbara L. Parker, MA, LPCC-S & Co-Host Mary Kent to break the stigma around male emotions—especially for Black men—and talk boundaries, therapy, co-parenting, and choosing peace over chaos.

What happens when men's emotions are invalidated in relationships? Our raw, honest conversation with three men who've walked through relationship trauma reveals the hidden struggles many face behind closed doors.

The stigma against men expressing emotions runs deep in our culture. As one guest poignantly shares, "The only time you can show that you are human is if there's a loss of life." This emotional suppression creates devastating ripple effects through relationships, yet few talk openly about it.

These men courageously share their journeys from denial to acceptance about their failing relationships. "My friends had told me several times what was going on. I didn't want to hear, didn't want to see it," one guest admits. This resistance to seeing relationship problems keeps countless men trapped in cycles of pain and frustration.

The most powerful revelation comes when discussing healing. Against cultural norms urging men to "get another one" after breakups, our guests took radical paths of self-discovery. One spent five years intentionally single, focusing on therapy and personal growth. "Quit blaming other people. Find fault in yourself," he advises. This counterintuitive approach - taking responsibility rather than casting blame - transformed their ability to build healthy relationships later.

Communication emerges as the critical skill many men never learned. "I hid it through religion, I hid it through prayer," one guest shares about his former approach to relationship problems. Learning to express emotions clearly and set boundaries compassionately revolutionized his marriage.

Perhaps most importantly, these men challenge the stigma around therapy in the Black community. Their unanimous endorsement of counseling offers a powerful alternative narrative for men struggling with emotional issues. As one powerfully states, "I had to be broken to be as powerful as I am right now."

Join us for this essential conversation about vulnerability, healing, and finding strength through brokenness. Subscribe, share, and follow us @QueenBLParker or @BF_Empowerment for more transformative discussions on relationships and emotional health.

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