If your spouse has stopped reaching for you, or if you have stopped noticing when they do, this episode explains exactly what is happening and how to fix it. Bids for connection are the small, everyday moments that hold a marriage together. A wink across the room. A hand on your back. A text that says I am thinking about you. When those bids get ignored long enough, couples stop making them altogether, and resentment fills the space.

In this episode of the Epic Marriage Podcast, Nick and Alex Leyva welcome back marriage and family therapist Tammy Hill for Part 2 of their conversation on playfulness in marriage. Tammy explains how John Gottman's research on bids for connection applies to long-term covenant relationships and why so many couples lose the ability to reach for each other over time.

You will learn why rejected bids lead to emotional distance, how to communicate about the kinds of connection your spouse actually wants, and why learning each other's erogenous zones is some of the best homework you will ever get.

If you want to stop missing the moments that matter most, visit YourEpicMarriage.com for resources created for temple-sealed couples. If this episode helps you, please leave a review so more couples can find it. Your spouse is reaching for you. Learn to reach back.

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If your idea of quality time together has been reduced to scrolling on opposite ends of the couch, this episode will get your attention. Fun is not a luxury in marriage. It is the lubricant that keeps everything moving, and most couples have run dry without realizing it.

In this episode of the Epic Marriage Podcast, Nick and Alex Leyva sit down with Tammy Hill, a licensed marriage and family therapist and sexual educator, with over 22 years of clinical experience who helped pioneer healthy sexuality education at BYU. Together, they explore why playfulness is the missing ingredient in so many covenant marriages and how it directly impacts trust, connection, and yes, your sex life.

You will learn why trustworthiness matters more than trust alone, how phones are now rivaling sex and money as the top threat to marriages, and why a simple nightly ritual of skin-to-skin contact can flood your brain with bonding hormones in under 20 seconds. Tammy Hill also shares her own "Tammy Day / Jeff Day" practice and a bedroom menu concept that has transformed how she and her husband play together after decades of marriage.

If you are ready to stop treating fun like a reward and start treating it like oxygen, visit YourEpicMarriage.com for resources created for temple-sealed couples. If this episode helps you, please leave a review so more couples can find it. Your marriage was designed for joy, not just survival.

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If your marriage looks fine on the surface but runs on autopilot instead of revelation, this episode is the wake-up call you need. Knowing about Christ and actually knowing Him are two very different things, and the gap between them shows up in every corner of your relationship.

In this episode of the Epic Marriage Podcast, Nick and Alex Leyva wrap up their four-part EPIC Marriage mini-series with the final pillar: Christ-centered. They explore what it actually means to center a marriage in Jesus Christ, why research consistently shows that couples unified in faith outlast and outperform every other group, and how the triangle of Christ gives your relationship an unshakable structure.

Nick and Alex share three practical steps: spend daily time with the Savior individually and as a couple, pray to see your spouse's eternal potential, and share your spiritual experiences openly. Alex tells the story of their four-year-old daughter calling on angels when she was scared, proof that what you model at home takes root.

If you want a marriage that gets better with every passing year instead of slowly fading, this conversation will show you where to anchor it.

If you are ready to put Christ at the center, visit YourEpicMarriage.com for resources created for temple-sealed couples. If this episode helps you, please leave a review so more couples can find it. Your marriage was designed for more than survival. Start building it with the Savior today.

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