Ep. 50 - From Debilitating Anxiety to Feeling Truly Safe

Twenty-five years ago, a single day changed everything for Melissa. In this deeply personal episode, she shares her experience surviving a school shooting at her high school in San Diego and what the years of healing after that have taught her about trauma, the nervous system, and what it really means to feel safe again.

This is a vulnerable one. Melissa talks about the guilt and shame she carried for years, the flashbacks, the anxiety, and the hypervigilance that followed her well into adulthood. She also opens up about something that made this experience even more complicated: the shooter was her friend, and he had been at her house the night before.

But this episode is not just about what happened. It is about what is possible.

Melissa walks us through what trauma actually is (hint: it is not the event itself), how it gets stored in the body, and why healing means rewiring your nervous system to feel safe, not just knowing that you are. She also guides you through a simple somatic breathing practice you can use right now to start calming your nervous system.

If you have ever felt like your body is stuck in a moment that your mind has already tried to move past, this episode is for you.

Trigger warning: this episode includes a detailed personal account of a school shooting. Please take care of yourself as you listen.

Topics covered:
- What trauma is and how it lives in the body
- Hyper vigilance, anxiety, and fight or flight
- The connection between mind, body, and identity
- Somatic work and breathwork as healing tools
- Rooting your identity in truth and in Christ
- A guided breathing practice to regulate your nervous system

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