Ep. 45 Efficient, Effective, Enough?

This podcast was created on the lands of the Ngunnawal, Wadawurrung and Dja Dja Wurrung Peoples.

This week starts with Easter camping, mini golf, belly dancing, faffing, and a genuinely cursed run-in with paralysis ticks… then gets unexpectedly deep. Jayne shares a powerful realisation about the idea of being “enough” after years of feeling either too much or not enough, and together we unpack masking, self-worth, fibro fog, apologising for existing, and what it means to be the right amount of you.

Then Callie goes full truth-bomb on the neurodivergent drive for efficiency, why inefficiency can feel physically painful, and how leaving traditional work has exposed just how much executive function can be quietly held up by workplace structure. If you’ve ever looked high-functioning on the outside while privately relying on guard rails to keep life moving, this episode will probably hit a nerve. In a good way. Also, yes, there is a side quest about pink flip phones.

Timestamps

00:10 Welcome

00:48 Belly dance teacher era, camping, and post-holiday faffing

03:30 Paralysis ticks, dog panic, and Australia's hostile wildlife

07:31 Fibro flare-ups and the first big question: what does 'enough' even mean?

10:32 Why 'enough' is a social construct built around masking

16:02 Fibro fog, apologising for your brain and body, and self-protection

17:36 The perfect amount of Jayne, the perfect amount of Callie, and flexible authenticity

22:49 The relentless itch for efficiency and why inefficiency feels painful

29:07 Pink Motorola flip phones and the chaos of changing systems

31:37 Leaving structured work and suddenly confronting executive function failures

37:29 Homework: go binge Beth’s Dead before next week

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