Ep 43 - What It’s Really Like Working as a Professional Dom: Behind the Scenes with Mistress Verna Part 1

What really goes on behind the velvet curtain of a New York City dungeon? In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I catch up with my longtime friend and former dungeon-mate Mistress Verna to spill the tea on our years working as professional dominatrixes in one of the city's most infamous kink spaces.

We get into everything they don't show you in the movies — the hazing rituals, the gossip, the client mind games, the surprise police visits, and the unspoken rules that ran the place. We also talk about the real stuff: the power dynamics, the politics, and how we built safety, sisterhood, and strategy in a space that was chaotic at best and dangerous at worst.

Tune in to find out what really goes down in a professional dungeon and why being a pro dom isn't just about fantasy. It's about finesse, boundaries, and knowing exactly who’s in charge.

Episode Highlights:

00:51 The Reality of Working at the Dungeon

14:49 Client Interactions and Techniques

22:18 Reflecting on Client Dynamics

25:34 Client Lies and Secrets

27:08 Sex Rules and Gossip

31:01 Raids and Safety Protocols

36:37 Journalist Incident

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