Ep. 308 Divorce Panel Rant: If You Tell Her to Calm Down… You’ve Missed the Point

If someone has ever told you to calm down after divorce—and it made everything inside you feel louder, sharper, or more volatile—you’re not broken.

You’re responding to a loss of connection.

In this Thursday Panel Rant, Dawn and the crew get cheeky, honest, and deeply real about why “calm down” is one of the fastest ways to shut a woman down—and why it so often backfires in relationships after divorce.

This episode explores:

• Why being told to calm down often feels like being told your feelings are inconvenient
• How emotional suppression turns into explosive anger later
• The link between anxiety, anger, and broken trust after divorce
• How gaslighting and dismissal train women to doubt their own reality
• The difference between nervous system discomfort from growth vs. true emotional unsafety
• Why anger isn’t the problem—it’s information

The panel also weaves in the concept of Martin Buber’s I–Thou relationship dynamic—reminding us that real connection requires honoring both people’s lived experience, not just managing the loudest discomfort in the room.

Because here’s the truth:
Women don’t need to calm down.
They need to feel seen, understood, and safe enough to tell the truth.

Instead of asking yourself to be quieter, smaller, or easier to handle, this episode invites a different question:

What feels unsafe right now—for me, or for them?

That question—asked with honesty instead of judgment—is often where regulation actually begins.

This is not a polished episode.
It’s a lived one.
A little ranty.
A little funny.
And deeply validating for any woman who was taught to silence herself to survive.

Welcome to Panel Rant Thursday.

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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.

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