Ep. 299 - Day 5: Missing My Kids During the Holidays After Divorce

If you’re here today, it means your kids aren’t with you...and that absence lands in the body, not just the heart.

This episode is for the moms navigating holidays, weekends, or long stretches without their children after divorce. The quiet. The ache. The way your nervous system doesn’t know where to settle when the people you’re bonded to aren’t home.

Joy shares from lived experience what it’s like to be deeply, trauma-bonded to your children — through pregnancy, birth, illness, caregiving, and survival — and then suddenly have to function without them physically present.

In this conversation, we talk about:

• Why missing your kids after divorce can feel physically destabilizing
• How maternal bonding and trauma bonding affect the nervous system
• The urge to stay busy, numb out, or dissociate — and why that makes sense
• What actually helped during the hardest hours (movement, EFT tapping, nature, structure)
• Why “doing nothing” can feel unbearable — and what to do instead
• A simple candle ritual to honor the bond when your kids aren’t with you
• How to stay connected without collapsing or abandoning yourself

This episode is not about fixing the grief or rushing you through it.
It’s about staying present with the truth that their bodies may be absent — but their love is not.

If you’re missing your kids today, you don’t have to disappear to survive it.
You’re allowed to grieve and stay with yourself.

🎄 About the 12 Days of Divorce Christmas

The 12 Days of Divorce Christmas is a daily, nervous-system-first series created to support women through the holidays after divorce.

✨ Days 1, 2, and 9 are available on the public feed.
✨ The remaining days — including deeper support for grief, loneliness, and identity after divorce — are available inside Dear Divorce Diary Premium.

If this episode helped you feel less alone, the rest of the series is there to hold you through the days that follow.

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Their love is not absent.
And neither are you.

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