Ep 26: Chasing Control - Why Letting Go Can Set You Free

Why do so many of us feel the need to be in control, at work, at home, and in our relationships? Co-hosts Rebecca and Diane dive into the complex and often messy world of control, exploring what drives our need to orchestrate and manage every detail. From the pressures of change and uncertainty to the deep links between trust, fear, and perfectionism, this episode provides real insights about how control shows up in our lives and impacts those around us.

Tune in as Rebecca and Diane discuss how our relationship with control can hold us back and how learning to relinquish control (yes, even when it feels challenging!) can help us move forward, boost collaboration, and restore our energy.

Here are the Highlights:

00:00 Introduction: Why our relationship with control matters

01:04 Control at work, when it helps, and when it hurts

02:14 What’s behind the need for control?

04:50 What drives controlling behaviours?

06:09 Real-life examples: Control at home and in the workplace

08:43 The energy drain of chasing control

09:19 The impact on teams: Collaboration, trust, and getting “stuck”

11:22 The cycle of rescuing, fixing, and passive behaviour

13:21 How to notice where control shows up for you

14:28 Trust, fear, and how to unlock new dynamics

16:15 Relinquishing control leads to innovation, creativity, and freedom

18:27 Self-compassion, pacing, and reframing what matters

20:42 Parenting, delegation, and the lessons for leadership

22:05 How to identify, trust, and delegate more effectively

22:34 Self-coaching questions to reflect on your relationship with control

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