Ep. 241: How to Be a ‘Screen-Smart’ Parent with Jodi Gold, MD

We are very excited to welcome Jodi Gold, MD of The Gold Center to the show this week. Dr. Jodi Gold is a board-certified pediatric and adult psychiatrist with expertise in child and adolescent pharmacology, reproductive psychiatry, psychotherapy for mood and anxiety disorders, and the impact of digital technology. She has earned multiple awards from esteemed organizations, including NIMH and AACAP. From 2006 to 2012, she led the child and adolescent psychiatry outpatient department at Weill Cornell and has since taught and mentored at both Cornell and Columbia. Dr. Gold is also the author of the acclaimed book Screen-Smart Parenting, which offers guidance on balancing children's digital media use. While raising kids in a world full of tech can feel like a constant balancing act (especially when every headline warns of the harmful effects of digital overload), Dr. Gold offers a refreshing perspective on parenting in the digital age. Rather than prescribing rigid rules or causing/worsening parental anxiety, she advocates for a very thoughtful, flexible approach that stems from empathy, honesty, and consistency. Dr. Gold recontextualizes the conversation around screen time, encouraging parents to focus less on hours and more on habits. She stresses that the same principles that guide good parenting offline, such as structure and communication, apply online as well. What is most important, she argues, isn’t perfect control but rather presence. Parents don’t need to be tech experts to be effective; they just need to stay curious, open, and willing to engage with their kids’ digital lives. Hear strategies for building trust and setting healthy boundaries that match each child’s developmental stage and personality. Dr. Gold highlights the importance of understanding your own digital behaviors too, since kids are always watching and also often imitating what they see. From gaming and social media to group texts and YouTube spirals, this episode encourages parents to stay connected and involved without becoming overbearing or checked out. Show Notes: [2:25] - Dr. Jodi Gold argues that fear and shame get in the way of effective parenting, but staying engaged online and offline builds trust. [4:06] - Parents need to align tech rules with their own habits and use an authoritative but balanced parenting style. [7:10] - Dr. Gold encourages parents to follow their child's digital interests with curiosity and focus on resilience, not just restriction. [9:12] - Many parents understand school schedules but overlook how their kids use devices day-to-day. [11:18] - Knowing your child’s social context can help you determine whether tech isolates or supports them. [14:09] - Dr. Gold points out how parents of younger kids tend to engage more with tech use. [16:16] - Tailoring tech rules to each child’s needs is important, especially for children with ADHD and/or anxiety. [18:45] - Dr. Gold observes that kids today are fearless digital natives, so parents must stay present and observant even when not experts. [20:20] - How kids use tech is more important than how long; they need focus rather than just limits [21:58] - It's important to combine empathy with structure and to use tech as a reward. [24:53] - Parents should set honest limits around screen time without guilt, using structure and self-awareness. [26:49] - Dr. Gold believes that occasional screen use is okay; just be honest about your own usage, and stay involved in your child’s life. [28:14] - Strong parent-child communication and self-awareness can help kids manage digital life and mental health. [31:21] - Parent the digital world the same way you parent offline - based on your values, not on fear. Links and Related Resources: Episode 142: How to Help Neurodivergent Kids Manage Social Media “Clarifying Gray Areas in Family Tech Use: Separating Red Herrings from Red Flags” “Family Tech Use Part 2: Resolving Common Dilemmas” "Smart Screen Parenting" “How to Be a ‘Screen Smart’ Parent” Jodi Gold, MD - Screen-Smart Parenting: How to Find Balance and Benefit in Your Child's Use of Social Media, Apps, and Digital Devices Connect with Us: Get on our Email List Book a Consultation Get Support and Connect with a ChildNEXUS Provider Register for Our Self-Paced Mini Courses: Support for Parents Who Have Children with ADHD, Anxiety, or Dyslexia Email Dr. Wilson: [e-mail] Connect with Jodie Gold, MD: The Gold Center - Website Dr. Gold’s Page on The Gold Center Dr. Gold’s Instagram Page Email: [e-mail] Phone: [phone]