Ep. 02 - Kept, FAT, & Free: Your Mama, Your Mirror: Shame, Pedestals & Performance

In this deeply personal episode of Kept, FAT, & Free, Katrina Monique explores the impact of generational patterns, family expectations, and the difference between being witnessed and being truly seen. Through her own story, she unpacks how the need for approval—and the legacy of a mother’s unspoken wounds—can shape our relationship with our bodies, our worth, and our ability to rest.

Mentioned in this episode:

• The reality of not feeling “enough” until you’re praised or productive
• How your mother’s shame or silence can echo in your self-talk
• Why so many of us learned to perform for love and approval
• The distinction between being “witnessed” and being “affirmed”
• The practice of mothering yourself, reparenting your inner child, and breaking free from conditional worth
• How to reclaim your reflection—and your wholeness—outside of anyone else’s validation

If you’ve ever felt unseen, undervalued, or stuck in someone else’s definition of enough, this episode offers a mirror and a path back to your own self-acceptance.

Want to continue the conversation? Connect with Katrina: www.katrinamonique.com | Instagram

Resources:

• Kept, FAT, & Free quick reference checklist
• Behind-the-scenes blog at HowSheGotFreePodcast.com/keptfatfree