Emotionally Constipated: Men, Feelings, and the Cost of Staying Silent

Men are struggling silently — and most people have no idea how deep it runs.

In this episode, Jonathan and Dr. Mark Mayfield have one of the most honest conversations we’ve ever released.

They break down why so many men feel pressure to “stay strong,” how that leads to emotional constipation, and why opening up feels risky even when life is on the line.

They also share parts of their own stories, including their suicide attempts, the moments that pushed them to rock bottom, and what it took to rebuild.

This episode may feel uncomfortable at times, but it’s worth sitting with. Whether you’re a man or someone who loves one, this conversation is for you.

You’ll walk away with practical tools, powerful questions, and a clearer understanding of how men can move from silence to strength.

What You’ll Learn

• Why “man up” doesn’t work and actually makes things worse
• How ignored emotions turn into anger, burnout, and shutdown
• Why men fear embarrassment more than vulnerability
• The identity confusion around “toxic masculinity” and over-correction
• Why curiosity is one of the most powerful tools for emotional health

• How to support a man who doesn’t have the words yet
• Why talking about feelings isn’t weakness — it’s strength

Statistics Don't Lie

• Men die by suicide about four times more than women
• Men make up 78–80% of all suicide deaths
• After breakups or divorce, men may face up to 8× higher risk of suicide compared to married peers
• Men are significantly less likely to seek treatment for depression or mood disorders

Resources Mentioned

• The Path Out of Loneliness — Dr. Mark Mayfield
• The Path to Wholeness — Dr. Mark Mayfield
• The Loneliness Workbook (self-paced, practical emotional skills)
• Additional tools and resources:
  https://www.mentalhealthmadesimple.life

Disclaimer

This podcast is for education only. It is not therapy or a replacement for mental health treatment.
If you are in crisis:

• In the U.S., call or text 988 or visit 988lifeline.org

• Outside the U.S., check your local emergency resources

• If you need help finding a therapist, reach out and our team will help you get connected

You matter. Seeking help is strength.