EP.9: Unstuck: Resilience & Roots - Coming Back, Not Bouncing Back

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Podcast Show Notes

Episode Title: EP.9: Unstuck: Resilience & Roots - Coming Back, Not Bouncing Back

Episode Summary: In this episode of Wounds, Wisdom, and the Word, Doug and Jamie kick off a new series exploring the "Top 10 Reasons Why People Get Stuck." Working their way up from the bottom of the list, they tackle reasons #10 (Lack of Resiliency) and #9 (No Foundation for Growth).

The conversation moves beyond the cliché of "bouncing back" to the deeper concept of "coming back" transformed. From humorous stories about surviving college math classes to the serious reality of job loss, Doug and Jamie discuss how our childhood examples—or lack thereof—shape our ability to navigate life’s hardest hits. They conclude with a look at John 5, asking the difficult question: Do you actually want to be healed?

Key Topics Discussed:

• Defining Resilience: Why "bouncing back" implies returning to where you were, while "coming back" implies growth and a new normal.
• The "Embrace the Suck" Mentality: How the willingness to endure discomfort is the prerequisite for change.
• Failing Forward: Discussing Dr. Sasha Shillcutt’s TED Talk and the five habits of resilient people .
• Foundations for Growth: How parental modeling (or the lack of it) affects our ability to problem-solve as adults.
• Men and Identity: A candid look at why men define themselves by what they conquer and do.
• Biblical Application: The invalid at the Pool of Bethesda (John 5) and the necessity of "want to".

Timestamps:

• 00:00 – Introduction: Moving from "Comfortable in the Mud" to the Top 10 List.
• 04:30 – Bouncing vs. Coming Back: Why we shouldn’t aim for our old normal.
• 09:00 – Storytime: Doug’s mom, a career change, and the stress of math class.
• 16:00 – The Art of Failing Forward: 5 traits of resilient people.
• 22:00 – The Wright Brothers & Elon Musk: Failure as a stepping stone.
• 33:00 – Perspective is a superpower.
• 40:00 – Reason #9: No Foundation for Growth (What did our parents model?).
• 50:00 – "Roger Gregory would be proud": The value of watching someone solve problems.
• 52:00 – Scripture Study: John 5:1-9 and the question, "Do you want to be healed?"

Resources & References:

• TED Talk: "The Art of Failing Forward" by Dr. Sasha Shillcutt.
• Scripture Reference: John 5:1-9 (ESV).

Scripture of the Week:

"When Jesus saw him lying there and knew that he had already been there a long time, he said to him, 'Do you want to be healed?'" — John 5:6 (ESV)