EP205 – STI Testing for Swingers (and why “safer sex” beats “safe sex”)

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories EP205 – Sexual Health Awareness Month: STI Testing for Swingers with STD Hero (and why “safer sex” beats “safe sex”)

Is oral sex “low risk”? How long should you wait to test after a hotel takeover or cruise? And what’s the real deal with HSV and HPV in the lifestyle? We brought receipts—and two experts.

Today we’re joined by Alan Brock, founder of STD Hero, and Dr. William Budd, CEO of Alliant Lab Consulting, to talk real-world STI testing for swingers, myths that need to die (no, you can’t blame a truck-stop toilet seat), incubation windows, oral vs. penetrative risk, site-specific swabs, and why regular screening plus straight-up conversations make play hotter and safer.

Sponsor (and a Perk for You)

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Segments:

• Myth Busting 101 – Toilet seats, “clinic tests are the only real tests,” and the HSV antibody red-X problem

• Incubation Windows – Why most results are meaningful at ~2 weeks, and Mgen needs ~3–4

• Oral vs Penetrative Risk – Where gonorrhea shows up most, when dental dams matter, and “safer” vs “safe”

• HPV Deep Dive – Vaccines, oral HPV, head & neck cancer screening, and when to add annual checks

• Lifestyle Scenarios – Two couples, two play patterns: what to test, and how often

• Hot Seat – Why STD Hero includes site-specific swabs and keeps prices lower (hint: they’re the lab)

• Fact or Fiction Lightning Round – Condoms, syphilis from oral, monthly testing, and cruise-week “clearance” fantasies

What You’ll Hear in This Episode

• Why quarterly testing works for low-frequency, barrier-using couples—and why monthly makes sense for frequent players

• The 2-week rule (and 3–4 weeks for Mycoplasma genitalium) after events before you rely on a negative

• Why site-specific swabs (throat/anal) catch infections urine-only panels miss

• HSV & HPV realities: antibodies ≠ contagious today; why HPV screening still matters even if vaccinated

• How to talk about risk appetite and recent play with new partners without killing the vibe

• The truth about at-home vs clinic testing (licensed lab methods are the same; cheaters can cheat anywhere)

• Practical cue: if an oral sore sticks around beyond a few days, get it checked

Useful Links from this Episode

• STD Hero – 10% Off with code Libertine - https://mybls.com/Libertine

• Join our community & events – https://libertineevents.com/

• Check out our podcast website https://wanderlustswingers.com/

Quick Tips & Takeaways

• Language matters: say safer sex, not safe sex—there’s always some risk.

• After big events: wait ~2 weeks (Mgen: 3–4 weeks) for the most reliable results; test sooner only if you’ll retest.

• Oral counts: expect more oral gonorrhea than other oral STIs; don’t skip throat swabs.

• HPV plan: screen annually; if positive, recheck in 6 months + ask your dentist about fluorescent oral screenings.

• Don’t alternate testing between partners to “save money”—immune responses vary by person.

• Transparency turns people on: share dates of last test, where you played, and what you’re comfortable with now.

Not Medical Advice

This episode shares expert perspectives and practical lifestyle strategies. For personal healthcare decisions, consult your clinician.

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