EP168 | Long Labours: How to Prepare Your Mind for the Marathon of Birth

In this solo episode, I’m diving into a topic that rarely gets the airtime it deserves—long labours. As a doula and homebirth mentor, I’ve witnessed first-hand how a mismatch between expectation and reality can quickly spiral into fear and self-doubt. That’s why today I’m sharing what you really need to know to prepare for the marathon, not the sprint.

Whether you're planning a VBAC, homebirth, or your first vaginal birth, this episode will help you get your mind as ready as your body. Because birth isn’t just physical—it’s deeply emotional, spiritual, and mental too.

Inside this episode:

• Why setting realistic expectations for the length of your labour is vital
  

• How personal and cultural stories shape our beliefs around how birth should unfold
  

• Why long labour doesn’t mean something is “wrong”
  

• How to manage your mindset when labour takes longer than expected
  

• The practical tools you need to stay grounded and in your body: breathwork, movement, heat, sound, water and more
  

• How to manage a crisis of confidence and make empowered decisions—even when things feel hard
  

I share stories from my own births, stories from the women I’ve supported, and the mindset tools that will help you stay centred—no matter how long labour lasts. You’ll hear about the importance of rest, staying in your own lane, and the truth that labour can be long, intense and still perfectly normal.

Long doesn’t mean broken. Birth doesn’t follow a clock. You don’t need to perform—you need to surrender.

This episode is essential listening for anyone wanting to prepare holistically for birth, especially those planning a physiological birth outside of the system.

Want to share your story?

If you've experienced a long labour and would love to share your story on the podcast, please get in touch. Every story matters—and your insight might be the very thing another woman needs to hear.

Enjoy this episode.

Ashley x

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Disclaimer: The VBAC Homebirth Stories Podcast is for educational and inspirational purposes only. The stories and opinions shared are personal experiences and should not be considered medical advice. Every birth journey is unique, and we encourage you to research, trust your intuition, and consult with a qualified healthcare provider before making decisions about your pregnancy, birth, and postpartum care.