EP10: Healing from Family Scapegoating: Boundaries, Nervous System Repair & Reclaiming Self

In this episode, continuing on from Episode 9, Lisa Aston Michael explores what healing looks like after family scapegoating, emotional harm, or ongoing hostility within the family system.

When harm comes from within the family, it can deeply impact self-trust, emotional safety, and nervous system regulation. Many people find themselves questioning their reality, carrying guilt for setting boundaries, or feeling isolated in an experience that is rarely spoken about.

This episode is a gentle, trauma-informed guide for anyone who has experienced family scapegoating, emotional abuse, or chronic conflict, including those navigating complex step-family or blended family dynamics.

We discuss:

• How to protect yourself when family harm is ongoing

• Why boundaries are an act of self-respect, not punishment

• When distance or estrangement may be necessary for healing

• The impact of chronic family stress on the nervous system

• Simple nervous system grounding and regulation practices

• How to separate your identity from family projections

• Reclaiming your sense of self, meaning, and belonging

• The role of chosen family in emotional healing

This episode is not about blame or confrontation.
It is about self-protection, clarity, nervous system repair, and reclaiming your inner authority.

You are invited to listen at your own pace, pause when needed, and return when it feels right.

🎧 Content note: This episode discusses emotional harm within families. Please prioritise your wellbeing while listening.

If you are experiencing family scapegoating, gaslighting, or other forms of emotional abuse, there are several confidential outlets that can provide support and resources. If you are in immediate danger, please contact emergency services.

• 1800RESPECT (Australia): A 24-hour national sexual assault, family, and domestic violence counselling line.
• Lifeline (Australia): Provides 24/7 crisis support and suicide prevention services for anyone experiencing emotional distress or a personal crisis.
• Kids Helpline (Australia): A free, confidential 24/7 online and phone counselling service for young people aged 5 to 25 years.