E35: I'm Trying To Get Help (Why Won't You Let Me Manipulate You?)

In this Chainbreaker episode, we confront a pattern that is far more common than most men want to admit they engage in on their sexual addiction recovery journey. It is the act of approaching mentors, coaches, partners, and support spaces under the guise of wanting help, while secretly protecting the very behaviors that keep them stuck. Many men enter healing spaces without the mindset required for real transformation. They arrive with chaos, denial, defensiveness, and ego; and when boundaries are set and when someone in the space dares to challenge the man's dysfunctional patterns, these men interpret accountability as an attack. Instead of receiving guidance, they create disorder, lash out at the person trying to help them, and sabotage the very healing process that they claim to desire.

This episode draws a hard line. It teaches men that genuine recovery requires humility, emotional responsibility, and a willingness to be led. Manipulation, tantrums (also known as man-trums), and resistance are not signs of someone seeking healing. They are, instead, signs of a man who is trying to retain control while pretending to grow. Here, listeners will learn why these patterns destroy opportunities for change, why helpers must refuse to absorb men’s emotional messes, and what true readiness for transformation actually looks like. For those who sincerely want to break their chains, this message is a mirror and a wake-up call: you cannot heal while fighting the hand that is trying to help pull you out of the mess that you are in.

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