E318 - Why You Keep Ruining Great Relationships (And Don't See It)

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Why do you keep ruining great relationships?

Every. Single. Time.

The problem is not that you can’t find good people.

It’s that every time a relationship starts to feel good… something goes wrong.

You want a stable, long-term relationship.

But instead you find yourself in heartbreak, frustration and anger about yourself.

And the most confusing part is this:

it’s not the toxic relationships that fall apart.

It’s the ones that actually had potential, where you felt: this time, it’s different!

► Links and Resources:

Conflict Resolution Video:

https://youtu.be/PxiDnxXC2p8?si=g69xLC_ZXLgVRo4r

Avoidant Attachment Style Video:

https://youtu.be/V5Nn_XOHFX8

Relationship Anxiety Video:

https://youtu.be/rXscvYntSpY?si=gNSR9w1DpkVv7QTg

How I Overcame My Commitment Issues Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SUECZtfGkEM

Trauma Bond Video:

https://youtu.be/J70RwIER2BQ?si=-Qxp_lwNVYMD9sgo

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

01:19 Why You Keep Ruining Great Relationships

03:11 1. You’re Not Ready for a Real Relationship Yet

11:05 2. Closeness Feels Like a Trap (Avoidant Attachment)

16:19 3. Your Anxiety Runs the Relationship (Anxious Attachment)

20:51 4. Pain Was Your First Language of Connection

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► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.

My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)

► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.