Dr. Mike Simmons & Kevin Martin on "Shadow Work & Consensual Non-Monogamy"

In this episode, I sit down with soul initiator and shadow work coach Dr. Mike Simmons (aka Shadow Mike) for a raw and unfiltered dive into the intersection of shadow work and non-monogamy — and what it reveals about the parts of us we’ve been avoiding.

We talk about:

* What shadow work actually is — beyond the buzzwords

* How non-monogamy can surface deep, hidden insecurities around worth and identity

* My personal journey navigating hierarchical polyamory and the hidden beliefs it’s forced me to confront

* Why the goal isn’t to “fix” the shadow, but to integrate it

* How monogamy, religion, and heteronormativity shape what we think we deserve — and how to break free

This conversation isn’t just about relationship structures. It’s about truth-telling, personal liberation, and facing the places we’ve been told to fear.

If you’ve ever wondered whether your relationship style is helping you evolve or holding you hostage, this one’s for you.

Check out more of Dr. Mike’s work at shadowmike.com and follow him on Substack, YouTube, and Patheos.

Shadow work is the backbone of sexual freedom. Inside SHAMELESS, I’ll guide you through it step-by-step so you stop running from the parts of yourself you’ve been hiding.

Start with a free Discovery Call — I’ll help you see exactly where shame is still holding the wheel.

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