Do I Matter? How Our Inner Story is Shaped in Childhood

Every child is asking: Do I matter? Am I safe? Do you see me?

In this episode of Childhood and the Enneagram, licensed therapist and author Susan Parker Jones invites you to look beneath your words — and discover the powerful role they play in shaping a child’s inner world.

You’ll learn how a child’s Inner Childhood Narrative (ICN) is formed through the micro-messages embedded in everyday conversations, and how the Enneagram helps us understand the emotional blueprints children carry.

Through powerful stories, research-based insights, and practical strategies, you’ll explore:

• The connection between attachment and emotional scripting
• Three common parenting phrases that shape how kids see themselves
• How your own ICN may be influencing the way you respond to children
• What to say instead — and why presence matters more than perfection

Whether you're a parent, educator, therapist, or someone working to heal your own story, this episode offers clarity, compassion, and concrete tools to build emotional security — one conversation at a time.