Desire Doesn't Expire, I Checked

Let's get real about something rarely discussed: what happens when a woman consciously steps away from sex. For over a decade, I didn't have sexual relationships – not because I couldn't, but because I chose not to accept what was available on terms that didn't serve me.

This wasn't a dramatic decision or vow of celibacy. One year drifted into five, then ten, as I focused on raising my child and building my business. Sex simply fell off my list of priorities. Yet as time passed, questions crept in: Was something wrong with me? Had I missed my chance? The whispers of shame suggested I should be grateful for any attention, echoes from past relationships where I'd felt obligated to express gratitude just for being chosen.

Everything shifted the day I reconnected with myself – not through anyone else's validation, but through my own recognition. Looking back, I realized I'd never had sex purely for myself, but rather to be liked, to feel safe, to avoid conflict. When I finally returned to my sexuality, it wasn't about catching up or proving anything. It was about choice – the most powerful element of desire. I discovered I could want intimacy while maintaining firm boundaries about what felt good physically, emotionally, and energetically.

If you've stepped away from your sexuality, whether by choice or circumstance, know this: you're not too late, too weird, or beyond redemption. Your power hasn't disappeared – it's just been quiet for a while. When you're ready, you'll feel it again in your body, your choices, and your voice. You owe no one explanations, but you owe yourself the truth. Ready to reclaim your power? Subscribe now and join our community of women living authentically on their own terms.