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What if the fantasy you've been hiding is the exact thing your relationship needs?

Most of us treat our desires like secrets — something to protect our partner from.

Today we are joined by Paris, a longtime tantric practitioner and facilitator who went from completely frigid to living out every fantasy she's ever had. She is one of Will and Chiara's main teachers.

In this episode we discuss:

🩶 why suppressing your fantasies makes them more obsessive, not less

🩶 how jealousy can turn into compersion (the opposite feeling to jealousy) — and what it takes to get there

🩶 the orgasm myths that's keeping millions of men and women from the best sex of their lives

🩶 tantric practices to expand genitals sensitivity and presence

🩶 how you transform your relationship when you start sharing out loud your desires

🩶 why men exploring their feminine side might be the sexiest thing you've ever witnessed (and how to get started)

🩶 the 21-day challenge that rewires how your body experiences pleasure

Sharing and going after your desires doesn't damage a relationship. It deepens it. Listen to this incredible episode to know how.

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TIME STAMPS

02:57 It's Time To Normalise Fantasies

03:42 Free Fantasies Live Workshop Invitation

04:41 Do You Know Where The Man's G-spot is?

05:47 Why It's Important To Live Out Your Fantasies

07:50 Serving vs. Taking

09:10 We Are Wired To Be Attracted To Others!

10:29 Jealousy vs. Compersion

11:05 Deal With Your Childhood Issues First!

11:57 Jealousy Is About YOU, Not Them

12:20 Jealousy Is Often FOMO

14:24 Try This   Biohack For Porn Addiction

16:53 How To Stop Your Sexual Obsessions

18:11 Why Suppressing Your Sexuality Is Counter Productive

20:24 Find A Tantric Community Near You...

21:26 ...Or Get Really Good At Communicating

24:28 Let's Normalise Sexual Language

25:26 Embrace The Slut Within You (for men and women)

26:54 How To Experience More Pleasure ( Debunking Orgasm Myths)

29:07 How To Improve Your Sex Life

34:17 The 21 Day Challenge

35:06 The Allowing vs. Forcing Principle

37:51 Exploring Fantasies As A Doorway To Deeper Connection And Trust

44:47 Bi-curiosity And Shame

46:46 Threesomes As Doorways To Brotherhood

48:29 Our Top Tips For Today

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For more info, visit www.deeperlovers.com

Paris & The New Tantra school: https://thenewtantra.com/

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More episodes on the same topic:

>> E17 | How to get 10-minute long orgasms (for both men and women) - Listen on Apple or Spotify

>> E19 | Threesome fantasy? How to talk to your partner about it (and make it happen) – Listen on Apple or Spotify

>> E22 | How to share secret sexual desires and why we're turned on by taboos – Listen on Apple or Spotify

>> E23 What's Really Cockblocking Your Wildest Fantasies (And How To Stop That) – Listen on Apple or Spotify

What’s the thing that scares the shit out of most couples? Being seen for who they really are. And in sex? Sharing their fantasies.

What’s the one thing that sits underneath every fantasy, every risk, and every deeply connected relationship? It’s TRUST.

Most of us simply don't trust what will happen when we share ourselves completely.

So, today’s episode is all about helping you doing exactly that. We cover:

• the difference between fantasy and action
• the reasons why "convincing" your partner never works
• why a hard "no" today doesn't mean no forever
• how to talk about what turns you on without pressing your partner
• how the nervous system needs to hear something a few times before it stops treating it like a threat

The best relationships are not built on playing safe. They’re built on the kind of trust that lets two people tell the truth, stay close, explore, and grow together.

If you've been sitting on a sexy fantasy for a while but haven't found the way in yet, this episode is the conversation you need to hear – make it a date night to listen to it with your partner!

For more info, visit www.deeperlovers.com

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TIME STAMPS

02:00 Free Fantasy Live Workshop Invitation

02:23 You Don't Know What You Don't Know

06:29 Challenging Times In A Relationship Don't Have To Be The End Of It

07:46 Trust Is What Changes Everything

10:01 What Are You Scared Of?

11:40 What Are They Going To Think?

13:08 How Chiara Felt Safe To Talk About Her Threesome Fantasy

14:42 The Secret Fantasies Workshop You Don't Want To Miss

15:19 How Do You Create Safety?

16:50 Is This A Relationship Worth Saving?

17:54 How To Know If You Should Turn Your Fantasy Into Reality

18:59 "I want to convince my partner to..."

22:09 Your Answer: Nervous System + Play

24:59 How To Find Your Voice

26:01 What Sops You From Sharing Fantasies

28:15 The Leap Of Faith To Trust

30:04 Ask Yourself This Question

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More content about Sexual Fantasies:

>> E6 | There’s No Shame In “Dirty” Fantasies: How Speaking Them Out Loud Transforms Taboos into Passion – Listen on Apple or Spotify

>> E19 | Threesome fantasy? How to talk to your partner about it (and make it happen) – Listen on Apple or Spotify

>> E22 | How to share secret sexual desires and why we're turned on by taboos – Listen on Apple or Spotify

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Most of us were raised to believe that sexual fantasies are shameful - or just plain wrong. But what if those forbidden desires weren’t signs that something’s broken?

In this episode, we get to the bottom of why so many people are turned on by taboos, what that says about our emotional wiring, and we share practical strategies to discuss fantasies with your partner in a way that builds trust, safety and - more importantly - turns them on, rather than scares them off.

We also openly share some of own fantasies and struggles with taboos, as well as real-life stories from our clients, from threesomes and being dominated, to consensual non-consent, emphasising the significance of curiosity and trust in deepening sexual and emotional connections.

If there’s something you’ve secretly desired but never dared to say out loud, today’s episode is your “how to” permission slip to get curious and start that super-hot conversation that you’ve always wanted to have.

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TIME STAMPS

04:55 Your fantasies are actually normal

06:45 Why do we avoid talking about taboos?

13:58 Stay curious

17:03 Should I "request" or "propose" a kinky fantasy?

23:34 How to suggest a fantasy to your partner

24:39 Domination fantasy

27:16 Masculine and Feminine in all of us

30:03 Slutty and proud

31:36 Consensual non-consent fantasy

33:29 Rape play fantasy

36:26 Sex in public fantasy

36:58 Threesome fantasy

37:22 Dirty talking fantasy

38:34 10 prompts for deeper conversations

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Free resources + next steps for your sexual healing journey:

>> Download the free guide:

“10 phrases to start deeper conversations with your partner”

Listen to E16 on masculine/feminine polarity in relationships: on Apple or Spotify

Listen to E19 on threesome fantasies: on Apple or Spotify

For more info, visit www.deeperlovers.com