Decoding Your Spouse: The Secret to Communication that Connects

In this heartwarming and practical episode of Art of Spousing, James and Lisa break down one of the most transformative tools for marriage communication: The Communication Code. Ever found yourself trying to be helpful, only to realize your spouse needed something entirely different? This episode will help you stop the cycle of misfires and start connecting more deeply.

You’ll learn how to use five powerful communication codes—Celebrate, Care, Clarify, Collaborate, and Critique—to improve emotional safety, reduce frustration, and build deeper intimacy. Packed with relatable stories (including a hilarious miscommunication over “small smart choices”) and powerful insights, this episode equips couples to decode not just what’s being said—but how it’s meant to be received.

Whether you're a problem-solver or a feeler, a planner or a processor, this episode will help you and your spouse communicate with greater grace, clarity, and unity.

Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

• Free Communication Code Assessment
  Understand your top two default communication styles—and how they impact your marriage.
• Free The Five Voices Assessment
  Learn your leadership voice and how it affects how you give and receive communication.
• Know Yourself to Lead Yourself Tool
  Understand how your tendencies shape your relational patterns.
• Provisional Plan Promise Tool
  Use this tool to reduce planning misfires and clarify whether you’re brainstorming, planning, or committing.
• Marriage Reboot Coaching
  A 3-month intentional journey for couples seeking breakthrough, clarity, and renewed connection. artofspousing.com/coaching or schedule a Discovery Call with James and Lisa,

Related Episodes:

• Practising the Art of Spousing
• Love: Defining the Three Essentials
• The Gap Between the Event and the Response
• Building on Common Ground

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