Dating Recession: Why Young Adults Aren’t Dating (But Want To)

In this latest episode, Dr. Shepard breaks down the Institute for Family Studies' national survey of 5,275 unmarried young adults (ages 22–35) and shares what the data reveals about today’s dating landscape. The episode highlights key findings: 86% of young adults expect marriage but only about one-third are actively dating. Major barriers include finances, low self-confidence, and negative past experiences, while most men and women still prefer dating cultures focused on serious relationships and emotional connection.

Dr. Shepard explains how weak interpersonal skills, app-driven consumerism (rosters and endless swiping), and lack of real-world dating practice contribute to the problem, and he offers practical advice: build communication and emotional skills, be intentional (focus on one person at a time), set non-negotiables, try low-cost or free dates, role-play to reduce anxiety, and work on self-confidence.

The episode closes with action steps listeners can use to improve their dating experience and navigate the modern “dating recession.”