Dating Mistakes I’ve Made (So You Don’t Have To)

In this episode of The Wrong Ones, we’re unpacking the messy, funny, painful, and oh-so-human mistakes we make in love—and why most of them aren’t accidents at all, but patterns rooted in psychology, attachment, and our own unmet needs. From confusing chemistry with compatibility to breaking our own non-negotiables, I share the lessons I learned the hard way—and the science behind why we keep repeating them.

Blending humor, research, and personal stories, this conversation is equal parts therapy session, neuroscience breakdown, and a reminder that every “wrong one” shapes the way we eventually show up for the right love.

In this episode, we cover:

• Why chemistry feels intoxicating but often disguises incompatibility

• The trap of trying to change someone who didn’t ask to be changed

• The difference between attention and affection—and why it matters

• How boundaries actually protect love instead of pushing people away

• The psychology of attachment, dopamine, and why your nervous system confuses chaos for passion

• Subtle relationship habits that sabotage intimacy without us realizing it

• The biggest lessons I wish I could tell my younger self about love, standards, and self-trust

• How to move forward without bitterness and keep your heart open

Reflection Question of the Week:

What’s one relationship mistake you’ve made that you can now thank yourself for — because of what it taught you?

Resources Mentioned:

• Attachment theory research (Ainsworth, Bowlby, Hazan & Shaver)

• Fisher et al. (2010) on dopamine and early-stage romance

• Doidge (2007) on neuroplasticity and rewiring patterns

• Intermittent reinforcement studies on addiction and relationships

• Research on the Reticular Activating System (RAS) and selective attention

• Studies on boundaries, people-pleasing, and relationship satisfaction

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