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Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman

Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman

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From navigating dating apps to overcoming the friendzone to seeking a soulmate, this ain’t your momma’s love advice! Hosted by the Official Love Expert of The Drew Barrymore Show and LA Times advice columnist, Damona Hoffman, Dates & Mates is jam-packed with interviews from your favorites celebs, authors, and experts. Dates & Mates is the 2022 Winner of The Best Podcast of the Year at The Black Podcasting Awards, #1 ranked love and relationship podcast by Cosmopolitan Magazine and a Top 10 Pick by HuffPost in the love category.Dear Mrs D, Inc. Ciencias Sociales Desarrollo Personal Relaciones Éxito Personal
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  • The Trust Test & Trauma-dump

    The Trust Test & Trauma-dump
    Dec 16 2025
    What is the magical first date zone between oversharing and playing it too cool? A listener named Brian shares: "I realize I have two dating modes. Either I dump all my emotional baggage on the first date, or I stay super chill and keep everything surface level, even when I want to go deeper. I've been hurt enough times that I just don't trust people to really be there for me anymore. How do I communicate in a healthy way without either overwhelming someone or hiding completely?" In this episode, we break down what's actually happening underneath both extremes. They're not opposites; they come from the same place. We look at the difference between throwing your pain at someone and letting them discover who you really are. Plus, we share the framework that helps you build trust gradually, without becoming either the person who overshares or the person who keeps everyone at arm's length. What You'll Hear: Both protection modes come from the same wound, but one looks like radical honesty and the other looks like walls Why your nervous system isn't your enemy, it's just doing what it learned to do after being hurt The goldilocks zone: how to start small and turn up the volume as trust builds What healthy vulnerability actually looks like in practice (it's not what you think it is) How connection points, not trauma dumps, create real intimacy on dates The power of follow-up questions and ping-pong conversation over one-way vulnerability dumps Rewriting your dating story: from "I keep getting it wrong" to "I'm learning to connect" Ready to get clarity on what's working in your dating life? Download the free Date Tracker at damonahoffman.com/datetracker to track your patterns and see where real connection starts to happen. Got a question about vulnerability, trust, or showing up authentically on dates? DM @DamonaHoffman on Instagram, TikTok, or Facebook, or leave a voicemail or text at 424-246-6255 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    26 m
  • DMs from Younger Men & Fairy Tale Reset

    DMs from Younger Men & Fairy Tale Reset
    Dec 9 2025
    You've been married for 29 years. You're newly separated at 52. Your inbox is suddenly full of men in their twenties and thirties. And you're sitting there wondering: what the heck is going on? A listener we call Confused in Coatesville shares: "I'm separated a year in the process of divorce after 29 years of marriage. I'm 52 and I'm told that I look a lot younger. On dating apps, I'm getting hit up by a lot of 30-somethings and even late twenties. I have very little interest in somebody under the age of 40, considering that I have a 30-year-old myself. How do I get matches in my age range that would have an interest in me?" In this episode, we unpack the real reasons younger men are reaching out, and what it actually means to date again after decades of marriage. What You'll Hear: Why younger men showing up in your inbox isn't random The difference between what you needed at 23 and what actually serves you now How "I look younger than my age" might be working against your dating goals Why an age gap hits different at 50 than it does at 25 The power of being strategic about which apps you use (and tracking your results) Setting boundaries with matches who aren't aligned with you…without guilt Ready to figure out what's actually working in your dating life? Download the free Date Tracker at damonahoffman.com/datetracker to start tracking where your best matches come from and what patterns are showing up for you. Got a question about dating after divorce, age gaps, or navigating the apps? DM @DamonaHoffman on Instagram, TikTok, or Facebook, or leave a voicemail or text at 424-246-6255 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    30 m
  • Paradox of Choice & The Endless Swipe

    Paradox of Choice & The Endless Swipe
    Dec 2 2025
    How can you have 50+ matches and still no dates? Every conversation either fizzles out or someone reschedules and disappears. And worst of all, you keep seeing the same faces on every app year after year. A listener named S shares: "I end up with 50-plus matches like within 48 hours, which okay, great. But then I either get too overwhelmed by so many conversations and endless swiping and all the same people, or I narrow it down and end up with just dead conversations. And there's guys having fantastic phone calls, scheduling dates, then asking for a raincheck without suggesting a date. What is going on?" In this episode, we talk about the real problem behind dating app burnout we will cover why the algorithm is working against you in the first two weeks, and explain how to protect your energy from people who are keeping you on the hook with no real plan. What You'll Hear In This Episode: Is the paradox of choice really what's holding you back from dates? The dirty little secret about how dating apps What happens when you treat matches like coins in a fountain instead of fish on a line Why "interest" and "intention" are not the same thing How the one-to-one rule helps you identify who's actually serious When to end conversations with people who are keeping you on the hook Ready to get better dates (not just more matches)? Grab the Profile Starter Kit at profilestarterkit.com to learn how to write a dating profile that attracts the right people. It's $9, and the fastest way to stop wasting time on dead conversations. Got a question about dating apps, burnout, or mixed signals? DM @DamonaHoffman on Instagram, TikTok, or Facebook, or leave a voicemail or text at 424-246-6255 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    30 m
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