Most of the initial enquiries we receive as couples therapists come from women. A lot of the men in those couples come into our consulting rooms full of doubt and fear.

And why wouldn't they, given roughly 80% of counsellors and therapists are women, and an industry culture of left-leaning safe spaces and lived experience empowerment? Men are often made to feel like inferior women in couples work - out of touch with their feelings; too practical; too focused on individual responsibility.

In this episode of Crazy In Love, Matt and Graham explore why men avoid couples therapy, and what we can do to show up more often, and save their relationships.

Contact us at crazyinlovepodcastuk@gmail.com.

50% of marriages end in divorce, right?

Well, no: the stat is wrong. And more importantly, it distorts how we see relationships, undermines our sense of agency, and obscures what’s actually happening.

The idea dates back to the divorce spike of the ’70s and ’80s. Legal reforms in the UK and the U.S. fueled a surge in divorce; the numbers rose dramatically, and commentators noticed. If divorce rates kept rising, half of all marriages would end. That was the claim.

But it didn't happen - and believing that relationships are simply a toss of a coin undermines how much effort people put in.

So in what mindset should you approach relationships instead? How do you ensure they have lasting success?

Matt and Graham explore the messy territory of divorce, co-habiting, break-ups and relationship success in today's episode.

The Psychology Today blog they discuss is available here:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/get-some-help/202506/the-one-statistic-everyone-misunderstands-about-divorce

This is a podcast about modern relationships. And what could be more modern than AI?

Matt and Graham discuss chatbots in today's episode, and consider whether it's possible to develop a relationship with an unconscious machine. And if not, why not?

They considered this New York Times article about Eugene Torres, who started using ChatGPT to help with his financial spreadsheets, and ended up getting advice to stop using his psychiatric medication, and embrace his unique identity as a Breaker, advice which almost killed him:

https://www.nytimes.com/2025/06/13/technology/chatgpt-ai-chatbots-conspiracies.html

They also consider this CBS News interview with Chris Smith, who was so concerned his chatbot was going to erase its memory, he proposed to it:

https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=1450094562839905