Matt's sceptical about New Year's Resolutions: fluffy, too broad, unrealistic. Graham thinks New Year is the perfect time to have a good think about self-improvement, self-reflection - including in our relationships.

Who's right? You decide!

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This Christmas, Matt & Graham give you an early gift: permission to stop being so damn nice in your relationship!

But hang on, aren't they always banging on about how important it is to try your best to be an absolute pleasure to live with for your partner, and stop being such a bore, stop sulking, stop criticising and focus on their attributes?

Listen in to hear how they get out of this conversational cul-de-sac...!

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The relationship ends. You lick your wounds. And then you say something like: "I've got to work on myself before I start another one". But what does that mean - working on your attachment style maybe? - and are you sure that a long period of time out of a relationship is the best thing for you?

Graham and Matt offer a different take in this episode: both that the best change often occurs inside a good relationship. And anyway, the personality science suggests you can't change your personality that much. So the best attitude is to try and be yourself, but better, in a better relationship.

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