I want to affirm my husband and honor him as God calls me to. But if I’m honest, offering encouragement isn’t easy amongst the list of unmet expectations, a busy life, and a heart posture of, “No one does this for me, and I’m ok.”

I’ve prayed the prayer that seems right: “Lord, change my husband, for Your kingdom come and will be done.” I’ve read the devotionals and done the other Godly things to check the boxes to coexist better. However, my heart remains frustrated at the unchanged things.

And yet… maybe God is asking me to start with my own heart. Perhaps I’m going about this wrong.

Surrender is where it begins. The outcome of my husband’s growth isn’t in my hands—and it won’t be from critiques or corrections.

As wives, we’ve been given the role of a “helper corresponding to him” (Genesis 2:18). Our greatest strategy shouldn’t be striving harder to change him, but instead, in our imitation of Jesus, to die to ourselves and follow His high standard and example.

When we release expectations that all too easily pivot into demands, we create space for God’s power to shape us from the core of our spirit. Romans 12:1 calls this our act of worship: offering ourselves as living sacrifices.

God has equipped us to be strong, suitable, and surrendered helpers, upheld by His grace. By staying anchored in Jesus, we can hope that a deep heart shift will occur—first in us, and then in our marriages.

Cheering alongside,

Brittany

Perhaps you grew up believing the lie that ‘feelings are unsafe.’

Do you know how to feel what you’re feeling? If you are already comfortable in this, does it lead you to safe exposure with Jesus or pull you towards quick-fix, fast answers in substitutional comforts that are away from Him?

As a mom of a rising senior, I hit the wall of emotion. I’m ready to stop pretending that everything is “fine,” in my heart.

One season to the next, we balance our emotions and steady ourselves with something that stabilizes the pain.

Our hearts are homesick for Heaven, and we can best stabilize ourselves in life’s shaking when we rest in grace.

“Now may our Lord Jesus Christ himself, and God our Father, who loved us and gave us eternal comfort and good hope through grace.” -2 Thessalonians 2:16

Grace holds us together in all life seasons.

I’ve never experienced an earthquake, but I can imagine that you need to hold onto something for stability in the shaking. As disciples, in assignments and life seasons, as wives and mothers, we need an unshakeable anchor.

The hope of the gospel of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ is our comfort and ability to confess that we are unshaken when we are shaken.

I hope that this episode encourages you. Dive into the richness of this scripture and cling to Him.

Cheering Alongside,

Brittany

Who’s ready to make wiser choices?

Aren’t you tired of the moving target of success (deemed by the world)?

Here’s some truth, daughters of God: Surrendering to His design leads to true life.

In this episode, we reflect on foundational scriptures and ask the Holy Spirit to reveal habits or heart postures that conflict with God’s better way.

Our consistent, often unnoticed decisions shape the bigger picture of our lives—and our marriages.

Could God be inviting you to notice the small but mighty ways you're either building or tearing down your home?

Ready for some great news? Even when (not if) we miss it, God lovingly draws us back. His sovereignty, mercy, and grace rebuild what we’re willing to lay down, even if it’s only with a remaining remnant.

Lean in, the Holy Spirit is ready to do some transformative work!

Cheering alongside (in my own battle & race),

Brittany