Series: What I Wish I Knew Before Getting Married

Managing household responsibilities isn’t just about splitting tasks—it’s about creating a home that reflects what truly matters in your marriage. It’s about tapping into each other’s strengths, communicating expectations clearly, and acknowledging the often- unspoken mental load that one spouse may carry.

Join our host, Hosanna Nazar, as she sits down with Raymond and Jenny Teo, founders of Ten Butter Fingers, married for 25 years. They share how chores are less about keeping score and more about teamwork in different seasons of life. Whether it’s reassessing priorities or outsourcing when needed, the goal is to build a home that supports connection, rest, and purpose—without letting housework become the main thing that defines your relationship.

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How do you build a marriage that feels safe—physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually—as you prioritise open and honest communication?

In this episode, host June sits down with couple therapists and clinical psychologists Jared and Joyce Tan to explore how couples can process their thoughts and feelings and express the deepest parts of themselves to their spouse.

They discuss why emotional safety is essential for intimacy and growth, and how self-awareness and attunement help couples navigate differences and strengthen connection. The conversation also highlights how unspoken expectations and family backgrounds can create emotional distance—and how understanding each other’s inner world can build a stronger, more secure bond.

Safety in marriage isn’t about avoiding conflict, but about cultivating care, humility, and repair. Whether you're adjusting to new rhythms or working through challenges, this episode offers practical insights to help you create a relationship where both partners feel seen, supported, and safe.

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Sign up here to create an account with Focus on the Family Singapore to access a wide range of marriage and parenting resources designed to nurture and strengthen your family relationships.

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If you have enjoyed this episode, please leave us a rating and review on Spotify, Apple Podcast or Podchaser. It'll be very helpful for others to find our podcast. You can also help us by copying this link www.family.org.sg/connect2podcast to share with your friends.

You can also support us by giving monthly. We appreciate your generous giving as every dollar helps to sustain our efforts in strengthening families. Please note that if you are based in Singapore, as a donor-supported charity with Institution of a Public Character status, all monthly and one-time donations of $50 and above, will qualify for 250% tax deduction.

“Self-care is about bringing our best selves into a healthy, shared marriage space.” – Jared

“We’re relational beings—sharing our burdens supports well-being.” – Joyce

In this episode, host June chats with couple guests Jared and Joyce Tan, both trained couples' therapists and clinical psychologists, about the importance of self-awareness and mutual accountability in marriage. They explore how expressing personal needs and navigating life’s transitions can strengthen connection.

Caring for yourself is not selfish—it’s essential. Everyone recharges differently, so take time to reflect and reconnect. Self-care can be a shared journey that uplifts both you and your spouse, creating space for deeper connection, growth, and meaningful service to others.

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