Communication skills to save your physician marriage with Michael F. Myers, MD, Part 1 | Ep507

Struggling to balance a demanding medical career with a healthy marriage? It might be more common than you think. In this part one of two eye-opening episode of Succeed In Medicine podcast host Dr. Bradley Block interviews Dr. Michael F. Myers, as they delve into frequent issues in physician marriages, including communication gaps, workaholism, and using work as an escape from home tensions. Dr. Myers shares insights on recognizing when overwork crosses into avoidance, the impact of poor role models from past generations, and practical ways to transition from work mode to family presence. Key discussions include protecting couple time amid busy schedules, handling defensiveness in conversations, and fostering intentional dates or "grown-up time" away from kids. They also touch on generational shifts in medicine, where younger physicians prioritize life balance over endless dedication, and the importance of transparency about personal costs of overwork. Dr. Myers emphasizes treating marital communication as a skill to master, like medical training, and highlights resources like retreats for enrichment. Whether you're a physician navigating marital discord or supporting a partner in medicine, this episode offers compassionate guidance to prevent burnout at home, strengthen relationships, and model healthy dynamics for kids, setting the stage for part two next week. Three Actionable Takeaways: Protect Couple Time Intentionally: Schedule uninterrupted "grown-up time" daily e.g., 30 minutes post-work with no distractions like TV or phones, or bi-weekly dates even low-cost walks; train kids to respect boundaries to rebuild connection beyond co-parenting, reducing feelings of drifting apart.Create a Work-to-Home Transition Ritual: Build in buffer time after shifts, whether a commute unwind, quick run, or quiet moment to shift from decisiveness at work to presence at home; recognize when exhaustion is temporary and communicate needs to avoid guilt or resentment.Listen Without Defensiveness: When a spouse flags overwork or avoidance, pause and reflect instead of rationalizing; treat communication as a learnable skill like medicine, seeking resources like marital retreats or therapy to address root issues before they escalate to fights or disconnection. About the Show: Succeed In Medicine covers patient interactions, burnout, career growth, personal finance, and more. If you're tired of dull medical lectures, tune in for real-world lessons we should have learned in med school! About the Guest: Dr. Michael F. Myers is a professor of clinical psychiatry and recent past vice president of education and director of training in the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at SUNY Downstate Health Sciences University in Brooklyn. He's a specialist in physician health and the author of many books, including "Physicians with Lived Experience: How Their Stories Offer Clinical Guidance" and "Doctors' Marriages: A Look at the Problems and Their Solutions." He lectures widely on stresses in medical training, burnout, moral injury, depression, substance use, PTSD, marital discord, and reducing stigma in medicine. Connect with Dr. Michael Myers: Website: https://www.michaelfmyers.com About the Host: Dr. Bradley Block – Dr. Bradley Block is a board-certified otolaryngologist at ENT and Allergy Associates in Garden City, NY. He specializes in adult and pediatric ENT, with interests in sinusitis and obstructive sleep apnea. Dr. Block also hosts Succeed In Medicine podcast, focusing on personal and professional development for physicians Want to be a guest? Email Brad at [e-mail] or visit www.physiciansguidetodoctoring.com to learn more! Socials: @physiciansguidetodoctoring on Facebook @physicianguidetodoctoring on YouTube @physiciansguide on Instagram and Twitter This medical podcast is your physician mentor to fill the gaps in your medical education. We cover physician soft skills, charting, interpersonal skills, doctor finance, doctor mental health, medical decisions, physician parenting, physician executive skills, navigating your doctor career, and medical professional development. This is critical CME for physicians, but without the credits (yet). A proud founding member of the Doctor Podcast Network!Visit www.physiciansguidetodoctoring.com to connect, dive deeper, and keep the conversation going. Let’s grow! Disclaimer:This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical, financial, or legal advice. Always consult a qualified professional for personalized guidance. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.