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What if success didn’t feel like success? What if the life you’ve worked so hard to build still left you empty?

In this episode of Coach Me If You Can, Ruta Stasiunaite — founder of Redefining Success, transformational coach, and modern mystic — joins Peter for a raw, live coaching session that flips achievement on its head.

Ruta’s story is one of bold reinvention: she’s lived in 8 countries, spent 14 months in the Brazilian jungle exploring the depths of her soul, and walked away from a decade-long corporate career to build a purpose-driven business on her own terms. Today she helps leaders and visionaries redefine success from the inside out.

Together, Ruta and Peter dive into:

• Why “if success doesn’t feel like success, it isn’t.”

• How childhood conditional love can turn you into your own harshest parent

• The gap between your perfect day and your real day — and how to close it

• The three jars method to balance past, present, and future self

• Why clarity doesn’t come before action — it comes because of it

• The small choices (running, cooking, joy) that rewire your definition of success

This isn’t theory — it’s live coaching. At times uncomfortable, at times liberating, but always real. If you’ve ever wondered whether your definition of success is truly yours, this episode will make you stop, question, and redefine.

👉 Find Ruta here: linkedin.com/in/ruta-stasiunaite
📧 Contact Ruta: stasiunaite.ruta@gmail.com

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What’s really holding you back — a lack of clarity, or the story you’re telling yourself about what’s possible?

In this episode of Coach Me If You Can, Peter sits down with confidence and manifestation coach Kira Matthews for a coaching session that explores the fears, patterns, and beliefs that quietly limit our potential.

From money mindset and self-worth, to building confidence through small, brave actions, Kira challenges Peter to spot the moments where fear is disguised as confusion — and to reframe them into decisions that move life forward.

It’s a conversation about more than confidence — it’s about seeing yourself clearly enough to start.

🎧 “Sometimes clarity isn’t missing — it’s just the clarity we’re scared to accept.”

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What if the thing giving you confidence, connection, and status… is also slowly dismantling your identity?

In this episode, I sit down with Rich Casement ex-sales leader and someone who quite literally drank for a living—to unpack what happens when the thing you’re known for becomes the thing you have to walk away from.

Rich built his world around alcohol.

Then, one day at his kitchen table, he hit rock bottom with a thought that changed everything: “They’d be better off without me.”
That moment led to his clean break and to running

But here’s what we explore together:
Running can be therapeutic… but it’s not therapy.

We dig into:

• How identity gets wrapped up in addiction and achievement

• The quiet danger of being “the fun one” in the room

• Why healing isn’t found in swapping vices—but facing yourself

• Coaching tools to build momentum when motivation is gone

• What Rich believes every runner—and every non-drinker—needs to hear

BIG NEWS: Rich is coming back for 3 sessions to coach me through a real 12-week transformation. This episode? It’s the start line.

Whether you're questioning your relationship with alcohol, trying to build a habit that sticks, or just running from an old version of yourself… this one’s for you.

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We’ve made 10 episodes. And truthfully, I’m still figuring this thing out.

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Should they live in a separate episode?
Are you here for the backstory, the coaching, the challenge… or something else entirely?

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Its meant to be "COME WITH ME" not "LOOK AT ME "
I want You to be coached by the show.

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Take a Deep Breath

with Elissa Davies

What do you do when your system is in overdrive — when you’re halfway up a cliff, on a high-stakes mission, or lying awake at 3am with your thoughts on a loop?

In this first-ever recorded episode of Coach Me If You Can, I sat down with Elissa Davies — a special mission pilot turned breathwork coach — to explore how we can access calm when life pushes us into the panic zone. We talk about the difference between stretch and overwhelm, how resilience is built through repetition, and why breath is your most underused superpower.

Since our conversation, I’ve been experimenting. Box breathing at night? Surprisingly effective (still not a habit). Allocating “worry time”? A game-changer. The physiological sigh? Feels weird… but it works. This episode left me with tools — and questions — that I’m still sitting with. And yes, I need to invite her back.

We also cover:

• Burnout and recovery in high-pressure careers

• How to notice your breathing and what it’s telling you

• Triage for your thoughts: control, influence, or accept

• The science behind breathing and heart rate

• How to build small breathwork moments into busy days

Whether you're a parent, a high-performer, or just trying to sleep better — this one’s for you.

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Episode 9: Mindset, Doing My Best, and Proud of It — with Mark Carolan

What if the story you tell yourself is the single biggest factor shaping your life—not your circumstances, not your achievements, not even your setbacks?

In this episode, I sit down with Mark Carolan, transformational coach and ex-banker, to get real about the stories we weave, the identities we cling to, and why so many of us measure our worth by external validation. Together, we peel back layers around burnout, performance-driven self-worth, and the quiet power of simply being proud of doing your best (even if life feels like controlled chaos).

We dig deep into:

• How childhood and societal expectations shape our internal narratives

• The trap of tying self-worth to performance

• What it really means to come home to yourself, no matter your job or life stage

• Practical coaching tools to rewire limiting beliefs and break the cycle of “never enough”

• Mark’s billboard message for everyone feeling lost: “You’re doing your best. Be proud of yourself.”

Whether you’re feeling stuck, battling imposter syndrome, or simply want to turn the volume down on your inner critic, this episode will leave you with actionable ideas—and a bit more self-compassion.

Coach Me If You Can is not about perfection. It’s about progress in the middle of real, everyday chaos. If I can find growth in the mess, so can you.

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Your best self starts from the inside out.

Would you want to live your life twice?

This is your opportunity to experience real executive coaching with Lucie Lachaux the performance strategist who helps CEOs and top leaders worldwide build a life that truly matters.

In this episode, Peter Weller sits down with Lucie, former CFO and founder of Changing Minds, who’s on a mission to add meaning and intentionality back into success.

Lucie’s story is about more than reinvention. As she shares, “The number one reason why we are unhappy, despite the type of life we are living, is because we lack intentionality in our lives.”

She opens up about how, after reaching the top, “there was nothing meaningful in my life except my job... those feelings are almost unbearable, and I cannot keep living my life like that.”

Peter becomes Lucie’s client taking her scientific mindset assessment and getting his results put “under the bloody microscope.” The assessment reveals his deep drive for connection, a tendency toward overthinking, high self-demands, and the realization that he’s become a big fish in a small pond: “Your next step is going to be a big one... you know you can do more, but you decide to not yet jump into that new environment.”

Lucie introduces her powerful coaching metaphors like using a paintbrush instead of a hammer and challenges Peter to expand his vision and imagine a bigger, more meaningful life.

Together, they unpack the habits and mindset patterns that keep even high achievers stuck, and why sometimes, “having high standards is a blessing but if it’s not managed properly, it becomes a curse.”

Expect honest, practical coaching and rich conversation about self-esteem, leadership, and the courage to change. Lucie’s signature question echoes throughout:

“Is the life you’re leading the one you’d like to live twice?”

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Poop it scoop it, know it.

PS. Check out E02 Poop it, scoop it, know it with CEO of Innerbuddies

What happens when a childhood joke cuts deeper than anyone expects?

In this episode, host Peter Weller sits down with Tom Hudson, a coach who turned his own pain into purpose. Together, they unpack the messy reality of body image, overcoming self-judgment, and building a life where health is about more than what you see in the mirror.

This episode isn’t your typical “sit-down-and-get-coached” conversation. Was it strictly a coaching session? Absolutely not. This wasn’t me walking through my blood results or putting together a step-by-step fitness or nutrition plan with Tom Hudson live on air. Instead, this was two people sitting down, getting real, and just letting the conversation flow.

Yes, Tom is an expert. Yes, Tom can coach—I have no doubt about it. We just didn’t get to that part this time, because honestly, sometimes the most meaningful thing you can do is simply connect with someone who’s walked a similar path and is as fascinated by health and nutrition as you are.

And that’s the beauty of this podcast: it isn’t always about formal coaching. Sometimes it’s about letting yourself be in the room with someone who gets it—and drawing learnings from their story, their mistakes, and their curiosity. Tom will absolutely be back for a real, in-depth coaching session (stay tuned for that), but for now, consider this episode what it truly is: a conversation between two people who nerded out on a topic they love, lost track of the clock, and just for a moment forgot all about the “format.”

That, to me, is progress.

In This Episode:
• Tom’s raw story of childhood body dysmorphia and the classroom moment that changed everything
• Why being “the person you needed” is both the hardest and most rewarding path
• How shifting from appearance to performance can unlock confidence and real health
• The unseen power of environment: parents, mentors, and what we pass on to our kids
• Nutrition hacks that actually work (from batch cooking to “food is data”)
• The truth behind common health myths in our Fact or Fiction segment
• What it feels like to finally have someone on your side of the table
• Listener Q&A: microbiome, healing after antibiotics, and finding your health “board”
• Tom’s billboard message for anyone stuck in self-criticism and his weekly challenge for listeners

Why Listen?
If you’ve ever felt at war with your own body, struggled to break unhealthy patterns, or wondered if real change is possible, this conversation is for you.