​In 2021, the names Sarah Everard and Sabina Nessa became catalysts for a national outcry. The promise from those in power was clear: "Never again." But five years on, has the landscape truly shifted, or has the collective rage simply been quieted? ​

In this episode of After Hours, we peel back the layers of the "watershed moment" that wasn't. We discuss:​

The Reality Check: Why VAWG (Violence Against Women and Girls) still accounts for 20% of all recorded crime. ​

Policy vs. Practice: Analyzing the 2021 Domestic Abuse Act and why "better street lighting" was never the answer.​

The Trust Gap: The ongoing crisis of confidence in the institutions meant to protect us.​

​It’s a heavy conversation for a dark night, but one we can’t afford to stop having.

Resources & Support: If you have been affected by the themes in this video, please reach out to:​

Refuge: 0808 2000 247 (24-hour helpline) ​

Women’s Aid: www.womensaid.org.uk​

Rape Crisis England & Wales: www.rapecrisis.org.uk

Collaborative Women: www.collaborativewomen.co.uk/contact

On this episode of Club Rhubarb: After Hours, we explore the profound ways that domestic abuse echoes through a person’s life. Joined by guests Jason and Shaun, we move beyond the headlines to discuss the lived reality of those who grow up in high-conflict environments and how that experience acts as a "blueprint" for adulthood.

We dive deep into the cultural pressures facing the next generation, from the rise of toxic masculinity to the inescapable influence of social media. Jason and Shaun join us to offer a vital perspective on male allyship, discussing how online narratives can distort a young person’s view of relationships and why men must be part of the solution in protecting children.

If you’ve been affected by the themes in this episode, resources and help are available at:

• Collaborative Women UK

  • Visit: www.collaborativewomen.co.uk

  • Our parent company providing safe housing.

• National Domestic Abuse Helpline (Refuge)

  • Call: 0808 2000 247 (24/7, Free & Confidential)

  • Visit: nationaldahelpline.org.uk

• Men’s Advice Line (Respect)

  • Call: 0808 801 0327

  • Visit: mensadviceline.org.uk

  • Confidential support for men experiencing domestic abuse.

• Respect Phoneline

  • Call: 0808 802 4040

  • A non-judgmental service for men looking to challenge and change their own abusive behaviors.

• Childline

  • Call: 0800 1111 (24/7, Free)

  • Visit: childline.org.uk

  • A safe space for children to talk about witnessing or experiencing abuse at home.

• The Mix

  • Visit: themix.org.uk

  • Helping under-25s navigate toxic masculinity, social media pressures, and mental health.

• NAPAC (National Association for People Abused in Childhood)

  • Call: 0808 801 0331

  • Visit: napac.org.uk

  • Support for adult survivors of childhood abuse.

• Internet Matters

  • Visit: internetmatters.org

  • Resources to help protect young people from toxic online narratives and influencers.

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Please Note: This episode of Club Rhubarb: After Hours contains discussions regarding domestic abuse, physical and emotional violence, and the experience of homelessness. We understand these topics can be distressing or triggering for many listeners. If you are not in a space where you feel comfortable engaging with this content, please feel free to skip this episode or listen with a friend. Your well-being is the priority.

In this raw and necessary episode of Club Rhubarb: After Hours, we tackle one of the most pressing yet overlooked issues in the UK: the direct link between domestic abuse and homelessness.​Why is it so difficult to "just leave"? We dive deep into the UK housing crisis, exploring the systemic barriers that survivors face when trying to find emergency accommodation and safe housing. From the reality of priority need and temporary housing to the psychological toll of displacement, we discuss what it really takes to escape a violent home in 2026.​Whether you are a survivor seeking domestic violence support, a professional in the housing sector, or a listener wanting to understand the survivor experience, this episode provides a sobering look at the fight for safety and stability.

If you or someone you know has been affected by the issues discussed in this episode, the following organizations offer free, confidential support:

​Domestic Abuse Support
• ​National Domestic Abuse Helpline (Refuge): Call 0808 2000 247 (Freephone, 24/7) or visit nationaldahelpline.org.uk.
• ​Women’s Aid: Live chat and local directory available at womensaid.org.uk.
• ​Men’s Advice Line: Support for male victims of domestic abuse. Call 0808 8010 327 or visit mensadviceline.org.uk.
• ​Galop: Specialist support for LGBTQ+ people. Call 0800 999 5428 or visit galop.org.uk.
​Homelessness & Housing Support
• ​Shelter: Expert housing and homelessness advice. Call 0808 800 4444 (8am–6pm weekdays) or visit shelter.org.uk.
• ​Crisis: Help for people experiencing homelessness. Visit crisis.org.uk to find your local centre.
• ​StreetLink: If you are sleeping rough or see someone who is, use the StreetLink app to connect with local services.
​Mental Health & Immediate Safety
• ​Samaritans: Available 24/7 for anyone in distress. Call 116 123.
• ​Emergency Services: If you are in immediate danger, always call 999. (If you cannot speak, dial 999 then press 55 to let the operator know it is an emergency).