Clarity in Communication: Breaking Codependent Patterns with Finn & Dr. Sarah

In this episode of Codependency Recovery: Leaving CrazyTown, Finn and Dr. Sarah get real about how communication breaks down when codependency takes the wheel. From the habitual “I don’t care” to the evasive “it’s complicated,” they unpack the language patterns that keep us disconnected from our true feelings. Through personal stories, humor, and practical insights, they reveal how to move from confusion to clarity—and why speaking your truth is a radical act of recovery.

Takeaways

• Common codependent phrases like “I don’t care,” “I don’t know,” and “it’s complicated” often mask fear or avoidance.

• Communication clarity begins with self-awareness—notice what you’re really feeling before responding.

• Detachment from emotions is normal in early recovery; reconnecting takes intention and patience.

• • Learning to express needs and preferences (even simple ones like dinner choices) builds emotional confidence.
  • Honest language strengthens boundaries and self-trust.

• Key Timestamps

  [00:02:00] The four codependent communication habits: “I don’t care,” “I’m confused,” “I don’t know,” “It’s complicated.”

  [00:04:30] How “I don’t know” masks fear of judgment and emotional vulnerability.

  [00:07:00] The childhood roots of people-pleasing and early silence.

  [00:10:00] Everyday examples of communication shutdown—how to spot and shift them.

  [00:13:00] Why “It’s complicated” really means “I’m afraid to decide.”

  [00:15:00] Final reflections: awareness, clarity, and courage to speak your truth.Notable Resources or Guest Links

  • Dr. Sarah Michaud, Author of Co Crazy

  • Follow @leavingcrazytown on YouTube

  • Website: drsarahmichaud.com
    

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  Leaving CrazyTown is a raw, real-talk podcast hosted by Finn and Dr. Sarah Michaud, two recovering addicts turned relatable guides on the wild ride of codependency healing. Each episode dives deep into the chaos of dysfunctional relationships, identity loss, and emotional recovery—with humor, honesty, and hope. Subscribe and buckle up—we’re leaving CrazyTown.